Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

Storm Arnhem a few years ago in Ne Scotland caused absolute mayhem and people died.
He's an idiot even entertaining the thought of traveling during a red warning.

So his fòotball match is more important than you safety? Fuck that Op

The red warning is only until about 11 am-noon tomorrow, leave after that. Believe me the whole of the Welsh coast will not be staying indoors all day tomorrow

We are in the red warning zone. We’ve been told via a government alert to all our phones not to travel. What’s wrong with him?? I think this s a 🚩…. Why is he not recognising and discussing your concerns? It would be easy (my DH would do this…) to think it can’t possibly be that bad but note the warning and agree to reassess and decide as a couple in the morning….

Tell him trees fall down in this sort of weather and they will do so tomorrow - maybe onto the roads - does he not know this?

If I were in your shoes and he's so insisting I would send him packing and stay one more day were you are, get yourself a spa treatment, a manicure and watch netflix then get a train back home next day. if he doesn't care for his life you do. He doesn't seem to care that much for yours so I would put this marriage on hold for now.

They will if the weather is bad.

Yes, there’s actually talk of both bridges being closed, which I can’t remember ever happening before.

Driving in a red warning is massively irresponsible, for all the reasons everyone else has adequately set out. Do not marry this arrogant idiot: he doesn’t care about you enough.

Take heed @BlueFoxel , this is him on his best behavior, this is him before you are locked in and he feels able to do as he pleases.

Notwithstanding that York is only in a yellow warning area, the Christmas market is off tomorrow because of Darragh and it's unclear that it will go ahead on Sunday. Of course, York floods very easily, but the warnings are for wind. In theory, Yorkshire and the NE of England are miles away from serious trouble, but that doesn't mean we won't get any and people aren't taking unnecessary risks. Why would your DH insist on risking you and himself for a football match? Does he think that bad things only happen to other people?

He can't make you get in the car. Don't go.

There virtually never a red warning this far in advance, so I'd take it seriously. Can you leave now?

Your own personally safety is your own responsibility I'd be booking into a Travelodge/Premier Inn and letting him do what he wants and get a train back when it's safe unless youre driving in which case he can attempt to get a train instead.

I'd be having second thoughts about someone who was happy to risk my life for a football match!

It's amber after that, which is still dangerous.

This. The match will almost certainly be cancelled anyway. Pointless risk.

My DH is one of the most laid back people I know when it comes to this kind of stuff, but we have just driven back earlier today from a break in the same area as I was anxious about staying (very rural, B roads, lots of big trees). We weren't due to leave until Sunday but tbh I think the roads could still be a mess then and like a PP said very likely both Severn bridges will be closed.

We spoke to the cottage owner who has lived there for years and she said she's usually fairly calm about amber weather warnings, but reds are so rare she was preparing for this one to be pretty nasty.

Honestly OP I'd be refusing to get in the car, this isnt something to take lightly. What a dick.

This. It’s really serious. He’s being a dick

I'm in Wales and the wind is really bad already.

I'm supposed to ebay going to the staff christmas party tomorrow but I'm thinking I should stay at home!

They do.

I work in Emergency Planning. I can guarantee that the only reason the Met Office have issued a red alert and the emergency alarm was issued is because nobody had anything better to do, and it's fine to ignore it. No other rules apply to your DH to be either.🙄

Do not marry him and do not have children with him. He doesn’t care about your safety. This will not change or improve with time. Speaking from experience here.

Won’t it be cancelled anyway?

Congratulations, I think you're marrying my ex! He was also arrogant and refused to be sensible and heed warnings etc.
I'd run for the hills and not marry him.
Don't get in the car, as others have said. Find somewhere to hunker down and wait it out.

I think it's difficult because at the moment it seems calm. I wouldn't want to travel in it either and would be feeling the same way as you. My DS has had his football cancelled (not suprisingly). Lots of places have already said they aren't opening tomorrow due to the red warning.

Can you get home by public transport later? If so that would be my preference. It may be he changes his mind in the morning when the weather is significantly worse.

LOL