Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

where are you ? I’m in Bristol and the alert is until 11am. After that is amber. When is he planning to set off?

The universe and mumsnet are telling you to not marry this male.
Football is worth more to him than your life, he can risk his own but not yours.

A football match is not worth risking your life for. It is bloody dangerous to drive in high winds with tall vehicles tipping over and such. Put your foot down.

He’s very arrogant

This is enough to not marry him. Arrogant people make shitty partners.

I've been notified about every local event that was due to happen tomorrow, including the usual weekend opening of venues, being cancelled.

He's stupid to travel, let alone for something that's likely to be cancelled.

You should have left straight away tbh and his football match will have been cancelled or will be.

Refuse to get in the car. If you are obliged to check out of your accommodation, find a pub and hunker down until the red alert is over, then work out how to get home.
What a silly attitude your DP has, wanting to risk your lives for a football match. Do you really want to marry someone who is so cavalier with your safety?

I drove in a yellow warning recently. I absolutely wouldn't do it again.

You stay where you are, and don't marry him.

Re think getting married.

Or go now, not sure when the storms going to hit though.

I'm another who is wondering why if you want to marry someone who is so dismissive of your opinion and so arrogant and angry. It really doesn't bode well for a happy marriage does it? It's not too late, OP, it really isn't.

Football obsessed, arrogant and dismissive.

I don't fancy yours much.

He’s a moron, and in addition to the risk to you, is also potentially adding work and risks for what may already be hard-pressed emergency services, and limiting help to others who might need it.

Honestly, just dump him. Permanently.

Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

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Do you want to live your life being told you’re overly dramatic? Do you want to be with someone who minimises your fears? Do you want to continually be told that your feelings don’t matter? If you do, you’ll be back on here after having children asking how to leave him. It’s your choice.

Edited to add arrogance in a partner is not attractive imo.

If you’re told not to drive then surely your insurance won’t be valid? (I don’t know this for certain - just a thought!)

Red warning means do not travel.

Like DO NOT TRAVEL. Not "travel if you want to" or "travel if you have a football match to get back for".

Fuck me. Your DH is the same species of nobber who ignored the red warning when the beast from the east hit us with snow like we've never seen. Red warnings are very unusual, and to be taken seriously.

Stay where you are and think seriously about how happy, loved and supported you can be married to this ‘very arrogant’ man who doesn’t care what you thinks

I realised on my honeymoon that my new husband didn’t really care about my wellbeing or what I wanted and ploughed ahead with what he wanted. Football was put ahead of our first wedding anniversary.

you now have an insight to this ahead of the wedding, please don’t make the mistake I did

Think about the emergency service personnel having to risk their own lives coming to save yours, how would you feel if 'DH''s selfishness resulted in an Ambulance crew being killed on their way to save you after a tree comes down on your car.

This is probably true- insurance companies have all the get out clauses they can come up with. Mind you tell your dh if he has a prang and insurance don’t cover it because he’s driving on a red that’s on him.

You are not insured to drive in a Red Warning, in this country anyway. I’m not sure about the UK. Check this before you leave.

Why are you considering marrying an arrogant man who thinks it is fine to put you in a potentially dangerous situation because of a football match?

Extend your stay until the storm has passed and let him go on his own. Then I would cancel the wedding...

Well well aren't you a lucky bride to be, what an escape you now have. He messed up there and showed you his true colours before the ring went on that finger. Let him leave, oh just make sure his insurance is well up to date first. I mean if he is gonna be killed in the storm cos he is a fucking muppet, then you may as well be loaded afterwards.

Do you have to come back over the Severn bridge? that will probably be closed.