Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

Home safely. Thanks to everyone who offered genuine advice re bridges, m4 etc. Much appreciated!

OP, I'm glad you got home safely, I was quite worried earlier in the thread.

It occurred to me this morning that your fiance was probably under the influence of "plan continuation bias", which is worth telling more people about.

https://dictionary.apa.org/plan-continuation-bias

"plan-continuation bias
the tendency of people to continue with an original course of action that is no longer viable. An example would be an airline pilot who unexpectedly encounters bad weather at the scheduled destination but decides to land anyway rather than divert to another location. ....."

I first heard of this from project managers about 5 years ago, and realised I'd seen it a lot at different work places. It is very common when people are travelling home, and is especially worth calling out for aircraft pilots.
There has been quite a lot of effort to train pilots to recognise this bias, and to avoid it:

I'm guessing men are probably more susceptible to this, but I think it's worth everyone having this understanding in the back of their mind for when such situations occur.

Here's a more detailed description, which even mentions driving on holiday in bad weather:
https://youq.ai/skillsets/cognitive-biases/plan-continuation-bias

I wish I'd remembered this sooner, since I know from work experience that it's a lot easier to call out the possibility of plan continuation bias than to tell someone you think their judgement is wrong.