Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

But he's your dream man to marry?

Oh so he is Mr I AM ALWAYS RIGHT!!!

And when he is wrong, he is even more right, right?

So when the bridge is closed and you are stuggling to find a place to stay tomorrow night, that wont be because he was wrong for attempting the journey but because the Welsh Authorities were OTT for closing the bridge?

Why are you with him?

So many people have asked you. Please do explain.

And there is no such thing as "misplaced" arrogance. Arrognace is having an overblown sense of ones importance or abilities, so it is misplaced by its very nature. He is just an arse full of his own self importance!

Amen 🙏

He can go himself, but he can't make you drive. He's a grown man, so it's his choice (albeit not a very good one imo).

I'd pack him water, snack, blanket if you can be bothered, as others have suggested. Not much else you can do, unfortunately. Then snuggle down for some Netflix to ride out the storm.

Both bridges are likely to be closed the storm is coming up through the Bristol Channel ( DS2 Bristol DS1 and myself Bath) govt alerts have gone off in Bath
and I wouldn't be surprised if there are power cuts too
Your Fiancé is an idiot and personally I'd think twice about my relationship if I were you

Why are you marrying him?!

Don't, it will be a miserable life.

Don't drive either, let him go and tell the landlord you are stuck till it's over.

I'm feeling really sad and single while my kids are with their dad tonight.

I don't however miss this type of minimisation of my genuine concerns, gaslighting and generally being patronised. Twat.
Do you really want to marry him?

The Severn Bridges official account on Twitter is warning that both Severn Bridges may be closed due to the storm; the M48 one (old bridge) is already closed.

Your husband-to-be is an idiot if he thinks getting to a football match (which may well end up being cancelled anyway) is more important than your safety.

Don’t drive. It’s a stupid risk to take

It's not much fun when a tree falls in front of your car. I was lucky and stopped with 10m to spare. That was a breezy day and no weather warnings, just pure luck

Red warnings mean a high risk of being blown off-course, vehicles over turning and debris.
Plus there's an amber warning of rain. Flooding. Aquaplaning. Poor visibility.

Would he even adjust his driving style? It never ceases to astound me how people ignore dreadful weather conditions even without warnings.

I would not want to be going anywhere that wasn't totally essential.

Do you really want to be married to an arrogant, inconsiderate idiot?

OP, please just sort a cheap hotel for you and let him do what he wants. If you need some help with the unexpected cost, ask a family member or friend. If his drive goes well, that's fine, he can say ner ner ner as you travel home.

Live quite close to the Severn bridge. The wind is howling round here like a pack of Wolves. I can't imagine it being open either!

Also the safety of emergency services who would be called out to any incident 😡

Yeah let him go and you stay there. Never know, he might write himself out of the gene pool before you're married and have kids.

Exactly!

Also, how is he "making" you go home with him?

What is stopping you from saying no?

Think about this with a baby. Really think about it.

Do you have kids?

Can you stay where you are? Are their friends or relatives close by you can stay with?
Whose car do you have? If yours then he can try to find his own way home. Otherwise try to extend by a couple of days and use train etc.

And don't marry him - and stop calling him DH - if engaged for 10 years your unlikely to get married.

Don't get in the car. Stay put.

He does not sound like a nice person at all. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with an arrogant man who dismisses you and who is literally putting your (and his) life at risk? Because he is a misogynist who thinks women can't possibly know better than him? I'd take this as THE 'warning' to get out of this relationship. Or if you want to stay with him, god only knows why, he sounds like a shit person - get some marriage counselling.

Take this as 'fate' intervening and giving you a message before you actually tie the knot. Fate is giving you a message - take heed of it, and get out of this relationship.

He sounds like a dick. Maybe the weather isn’t the only warning you should be taking notice of

Maybe look at a map of the Uk?

So, the warning has been issued today and your DH thinks you should leave tomorrow as planned, but you disagree? Did you think you should have left today to get home before it starts?

We can't really tell you everything will be fine, given that the government has issued a threat to life warning and the RAC have said not to drive.
You could go, and be fine. Or you could go, and get hit by a tree or washed off the road or die in some other grotesque and totally avoidable way. Or you could sit tight until the storm passes.