Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

Just remember to take your ruby slippers with you.

Depending on whether you're driving back home across the bridge, beware thar it may be shut because of the wind so you'd have to go the long way home?

I'm a bit at the number of posters who think map reading is pointless!

I know how to light a coal fire. But it's not a skill I've had to use for half a century.

He's a good partner when he's getting his own way, you mean.

He's horrible, controlling and disrespectful and treats you like a silly little girl.

Only going to get worse. Next time it will be your children’s’ Lives at risk. Red flag!

If they are seriously going to get married, and perhaps have children, he needs to understand that there are going to be many issues, major and day-to-day, where the OP's judgement is better informed than his and he needs to discuss everything without assuming he is right. Actually, on present performance, many of his decisions are likely to be ill-considered on present form, but there is no need to emphasise this, just that in future he should start discussions on the understanding the OP might well be right.

They’re driving right now, aren’t they?

Are you sure you want to marry your dominator?

Glad you haven't driven, OP.

We've had 3 trees down in our village and a mate has just had a huge one come down right in front of her car in a town nearby. Really scary near-miss.

We're only in a yellow warning zone.

the most accurate indication of future behaviour is how someone has behaved in the past and is presently doing. and the op has said he is arrogant and that this sort of behaviour is not a one off. So yes I do think there is a glaring need to emphasise this.

Or is the power down where they are?

If you decide this relationship is not healthy and is over, then all your problems will be solved at once. You can then get yourself home when it suits you.

I am promoting the value of positive reinforcement rather than recrimination for behavioural change. But, yes, starting again with a more suitable subject may be the way to go.

It's the classic it'll never happen to me attitude, which works until your number comes up. Can you not leave earlier and pre-empt the worst weather?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c1j00p3j2dpo

I can never understand why some people think they are wearing a cloak of invulnerability.

A bit like these people who think technology is perfect and can completely replace fundamental skills:

https://www.thesun.co.uk/motors/2775657/16-mind-boggling-sat-nav-fails/

Reread what you have written here @tries .

he needs to understand that there are going to be many issues, major and day-to-day, where the OP's judgement is better informed than his
Does he really sound like the sort of man to have this sort of conversation with and be open to suggestions of this nature when he's riding roughshod over op's opinions in a high stakes situation like this?
and he needs to discuss everything without assuming he is right.
Again, not that kind of man when he's said she's overreacting for suggesting mobile phones should be fully charged.

in future he should start discussions on the understanding the OP might well be right.
not the sort of man to do this. Op having been with him for 10 years describes him as horrendously arrogant and authoritative
on present performance, many of his decisions are likely to be ill-considered on present form
so op should not tie herself up to him further in hopes he will change.

He's not a puppy she can train up. He is arrogant, authoritative, domineering and dismisses her concerns. No she should not 'start with a more suitable subject' like a good little wifey. she can choose to address this now as it happens.

Well at least Anton and Craig aren't wearing dresses for once.

Wow.

Oh. Sorry, wrong thread!

They'd want to have weighted hems 🤣

You may want to tell him that he may not actually be insured. We are motbaility customers and in such warnings we often get an email from our insurers advising that if we drive when there's a red warning and it's been advised not to drive unless it's an.emergency then we would not be insured.

Sorry! That was meant for the Strictly thread lol.

Your D Fiancé is as thick as pigshit. I'm glad you're staying put, but he's still talking about when roads will reopen and what monmouth/ Forest of Dean will be like d'uh
The prince of wales bridge will reopen first as the sides are built up given more protection from the winds
However, there will be fallen trees and debris and still no certainty it will be open
Going down through Lydney, the road twists and turn's alongside the river
I hope it's better tomorrow but no guarantee there won't be flooding
I simply don't believe he is a good partner in other ways. Probably because you appease him every time.