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To ask about 56 year old men?

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Jumell · 05/12/2024 07:58

Just that really.

What kind of things do they like in general? Have they got good stamina ? I suppose it depends how they live their lives. Would love some feedback on things like -

kind of things they’d like to receive for birthdays /Xmas

music they like?

in case someone’s asking - I’ve got a little crush 🤣

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 06:51

Singsomethingsimple · 07/12/2024 06:49

But is he single?

Not married .. no

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DragonGypsyDoris · 07/12/2024 07:04

They're definitely all the same at that age. Exactly like 46 year old men, but 10 years older. No scope for individuality at all. They're like clones.🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

ZippyDoodle · 07/12/2024 07:07

You might have more success if you ask him rather than a load of anonymous randoms on MN.

Bizarre thread of the day goes to....

SkylarkKitten · 07/12/2024 08:33

My partner had a young girl, probably around 22, wanting to go out with him when he was newly divorced. He was about 52 at the time.

He said she was very hot, and it was obviously flattering and tempting. However, it's when he tried talking about era's, music, books, experiences, emotions...it all became very clear that it wouldn't work out.

Added to that, even though he looks like he's in his early 40s, there would be such an obvious age difference, everyone would always assume he was with his daughter.

In the end she wanted to go clubbing, and he politely went home.

I'm not sure whether they actually had s** and tbh I didn't want to know. All I know is that he said it didn't feel right at all and he just didn't ever want to be thought of as a sugar daddy.

Please be careful with this. Crushes are great, but sometimes they're best left to be fantasies. Xx

PS. He likes books, live music, fine red wine, proper coffee, travel and cooking. (Gourmet and delicious!) Plenty of stamina. Cycles to work everyday (5miles each way) and we have s** a few times a week. (more often on holidays) He is 58 and had a triple heart bypass this year!

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 08:39

SkylarkKitten · 07/12/2024 08:33

My partner had a young girl, probably around 22, wanting to go out with him when he was newly divorced. He was about 52 at the time.

He said she was very hot, and it was obviously flattering and tempting. However, it's when he tried talking about era's, music, books, experiences, emotions...it all became very clear that it wouldn't work out.

Added to that, even though he looks like he's in his early 40s, there would be such an obvious age difference, everyone would always assume he was with his daughter.

In the end she wanted to go clubbing, and he politely went home.

I'm not sure whether they actually had s** and tbh I didn't want to know. All I know is that he said it didn't feel right at all and he just didn't ever want to be thought of as a sugar daddy.

Please be careful with this. Crushes are great, but sometimes they're best left to be fantasies. Xx

PS. He likes books, live music, fine red wine, proper coffee, travel and cooking. (Gourmet and delicious!) Plenty of stamina. Cycles to work everyday (5miles each way) and we have s** a few times a week. (more often on holidays) He is 58 and had a triple heart bypass this year!

Agree that sometimes crushes are best left to fantasies. Tbh I don’t want to disrupt his current life so won’t encroach on it

also believe that it’s good to have a shared cultural reference with someone music etc

I’m British and had a German friend the same age with a British boyfriend. Even though I was the same age as both of them - I had more to talk about with the Brit boyfriend than my German friend as same nationality - identitcal cultural references if same age! So age and nationality play into it definitely!

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 08:40

SkylarkKitten · 07/12/2024 08:33

My partner had a young girl, probably around 22, wanting to go out with him when he was newly divorced. He was about 52 at the time.

He said she was very hot, and it was obviously flattering and tempting. However, it's when he tried talking about era's, music, books, experiences, emotions...it all became very clear that it wouldn't work out.

Added to that, even though he looks like he's in his early 40s, there would be such an obvious age difference, everyone would always assume he was with his daughter.

In the end she wanted to go clubbing, and he politely went home.

I'm not sure whether they actually had s** and tbh I didn't want to know. All I know is that he said it didn't feel right at all and he just didn't ever want to be thought of as a sugar daddy.

Please be careful with this. Crushes are great, but sometimes they're best left to be fantasies. Xx

PS. He likes books, live music, fine red wine, proper coffee, travel and cooking. (Gourmet and delicious!) Plenty of stamina. Cycles to work everyday (5miles each way) and we have s** a few times a week. (more often on holidays) He is 58 and had a triple heart bypass this year!

Your partner’s doing well by the sound of it !

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SpringleDingle · 07/12/2024 08:40

In my case running, Lego and computer games. His stamina is pretty good over 10k but the half marathon was a bit of a stretch. For Xmas he wants Lego, vegan chocolate and a watch. He is tea-total and listens to rock music.

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 08:40

SpringleDingle · 07/12/2024 08:40

In my case running, Lego and computer games. His stamina is pretty good over 10k but the half marathon was a bit of a stretch. For Xmas he wants Lego, vegan chocolate and a watch. He is tea-total and listens to rock music.

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I’ve only ever done 10k!!

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 09:38

OK guys - I’ve decided

im going to buy him some 2025 annuals - a football and a Smash Hits annual

Surely ALL 1968 born individuals just LOVE a good annual ? (After they’ve finished tinkering with their Morris Minors - not a euphemism )

or would Smash Hits annuals by now have become lost in the annuals of time ?

i mean annuals are so GEN X they’re practically taping the Top 40 as we speak ! 🤣

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HollyKnight · 07/12/2024 09:49

I think you're yanking our chain.

But if not, I think you should leave this poor bloke alone. He's not some mysterious species from another planet. It's quite tedious to have someone make a big deal about your age.

SmellToGetWell · 07/12/2024 09:52

Jumell · 07/12/2024 09:38

OK guys - I’ve decided

im going to buy him some 2025 annuals - a football and a Smash Hits annual

Surely ALL 1968 born individuals just LOVE a good annual ? (After they’ve finished tinkering with their Morris Minors - not a euphemism )

or would Smash Hits annuals by now have become lost in the annuals of time ?

i mean annuals are so GEN X they’re practically taping the Top 40 as we speak ! 🤣

Why would you buy him a child’s gift? I’m sorry, @Jumell , but you sound more and more juvenile with each post. Do you have much relationship experience? I’m still not clear about why you’re thinking of trying to start a relationship with a man who is more than 20 years older than you unless you are seeking a father figure - and that isn’t a healthy start to a relationship as partners. And I see you were cagey about answering the question about whether he is single - your reply ‘not married’ concerns me a bit. If he is in another relationship then leave him alone, please!

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 09:53

HollyKnight · 07/12/2024 09:49

I think you're yanking our chain.

But if not, I think you should leave this poor bloke alone. He's not some mysterious species from another planet. It's quite tedious to have someone make a big deal about your age.

He seems in 20s still - lean, good looking

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 09:55

SmellToGetWell · 07/12/2024 09:52

Why would you buy him a child’s gift? I’m sorry, @Jumell , but you sound more and more juvenile with each post. Do you have much relationship experience? I’m still not clear about why you’re thinking of trying to start a relationship with a man who is more than 20 years older than you unless you are seeking a father figure - and that isn’t a healthy start to a relationship as partners. And I see you were cagey about answering the question about whether he is single - your reply ‘not married’ concerns me a bit. If he is in another relationship then leave him alone, please!

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To be fair a lot of adults do love the Smash Hits annuals - they’ve brought one or 2 out - they’re excellent

I agree wholeheartedly with you about leaving people alone who are already in relationships

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HollyKnight · 07/12/2024 10:14

Jumell · 07/12/2024 09:53

He seems in 20s still - lean, good looking

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What has that got to do with anything? You sound surprised that he doesn't act like an old man. 56 years old shouldn't sound old to a 30-something-year-old. You aren't a child. I'm starting to think PPs are right and you have some daddy issues.

TwistedWonder · 07/12/2024 10:18

HollyKnight · 07/12/2024 09:49

I think you're yanking our chain.

But if not, I think you should leave this poor bloke alone. He's not some mysterious species from another planet. It's quite tedious to have someone make a big deal about your age.

Yep I’m starting to think it’s a wind up what with the music for geriatrics and the annuals for children. I’m a similar age to the man in question and if I got given a mix tape from the back and white era along with an annual, I’d think the sender had lost their marbles

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 10:26

TwistedWonder · 07/12/2024 10:18

Yep I’m starting to think it’s a wind up what with the music for geriatrics and the annuals for children. I’m a similar age to the man in question and if I got given a mix tape from the back and white era along with an annual, I’d think the sender had lost their marbles

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It is NOT music for geriatrics!!

I mean I know I walk up the stairs like one - but I’m NOT one and love that music !

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 10:30

TwistedWonder · 07/12/2024 10:18

Yep I’m starting to think it’s a wind up what with the music for geriatrics and the annuals for children. I’m a similar age to the man in question and if I got given a mix tape from the back and white era along with an annual, I’d think the sender had lost their marbles

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An adult really would appreciate the Smash Hits annual I read. It has some excellent content

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Regalrosie · 07/12/2024 10:45

SmellToGetWell · 07/12/2024 09:52

Why would you buy him a child’s gift? I’m sorry, @Jumell , but you sound more and more juvenile with each post. Do you have much relationship experience? I’m still not clear about why you’re thinking of trying to start a relationship with a man who is more than 20 years older than you unless you are seeking a father figure - and that isn’t a healthy start to a relationship as partners. And I see you were cagey about answering the question about whether he is single - your reply ‘not married’ concerns me a bit. If he is in another relationship then leave him alone, please!

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I actually thought OP sounded older than 34 😁 and tbf I’m sure OP knows that they’re getting themselves in for dating an old timer 😉

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 10:47

Regalrosie · 07/12/2024 10:45

I actually thought OP sounded older than 34 😁 and tbf I’m sure OP knows that they’re getting themselves in for dating an old timer 😉

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It’s funny how I don’t see anyone born in ‘68 Asan old timer !

he’s not carrying an ounce of excess weight .. and is very lively!

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EmotionalSupportBiscuit · 07/12/2024 15:03

TwistedWonder · 07/12/2024 10:18

Yep I’m starting to think it’s a wind up what with the music for geriatrics and the annuals for children. I’m a similar age to the man in question and if I got given a mix tape from the back and white era along with an annual, I’d think the sender had lost their marbles

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She’s mixing between threads. There’s this crazy imaginary present-for-a-crush one, and the other where she’s asking people born in the 70s what they like. Dropping ideas from the latter into this one.

We’re having a lovely nostalgic time on the other thread so I’m willing to ignore that it didn’t start from a genuine place.

MildredSauce · 07/12/2024 15:28

EmotionalSupportBiscuit · 07/12/2024 15:03

She’s mixing between threads. There’s this crazy imaginary present-for-a-crush one, and the other where she’s asking people born in the 70s what they like. Dropping ideas from the latter into this one.

We’re having a lovely nostalgic time on the other thread so I’m willing to ignore that it didn’t start from a genuine place.

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Saw that other thread. All the threads. Random and prolific. To be honest I think the op just wants a Lovely Chat. .

ObtuseMoose · 07/12/2024 16:10

So he's not married but isn't single? I think you'll make a massive plonker of yourself if you buy him children's books for Christmas.

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Jumell · 07/12/2024 16:40

ObtuseMoose · 07/12/2024 16:10

So he's not married but isn't single? I think you'll make a massive plonker of yourself if you buy him children's books for Christmas.

ok Fair enough but things like Private Eye annuals are definitely geared for adults as is at least one Smash Hits annual I’ve read - the Smash Hits one is a classic 🙌

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vapourtrail · 07/12/2024 16:59

This suggestion that keeps coming up that not all 56 year old men are the same has me worried. Is it just at 56 that these variations can occur or is there another age where this is also a risk??

MildredSauce · 07/12/2024 17:23

vapourtrail · 07/12/2024 16:59

This suggestion that keeps coming up that not all 56 year old men are the same has me worried. Is it just at 56 that these variations can occur or is there another age where this is also a risk??

Absolutely. It happens in tetrahedral number years so you'll also find Bloke Variations in 20 year olds, 35 year olds, 84 year olds and 120 year olds.