Just ask. I'm disabled and if I get a fuck off I remind the person it is a condition of carage to give up an access seat if required to do so
That’s absolutely fine, as long as you don’t target individuals but ask generally.
No, most people don’t have hidden disabilities. However the odd one does. I have a child that does and they are every bit in need of a seat as any other person with disability, pregnancy or old age. Several times, when travelling with them and when crowded, they have been targeted as a seemingly healthy young adult and asked to give up their seat. I, standing next to them, say ‘no, that’s not possible, they require a seat’ because as a young adult they are embarrassed to admit there is something wrong with them. Invariably we will get guff about how they have to/condition of carriage/sitting in disabled seats/this is the problem with young people these days etc. Once they start down whatever one of these insane paths they choose to carry on with I give a very firm ‘Fuck off’ because I just don’t want to do it and don’t see why child who already feels embarrassed about their condition should have to cop such diatribe. No way should any person with a disability have to disclose the nature of it to anyone.
Should say, if I wasn’t there my child would most likely give up their seat to avoid having to voice their needs in a public forum, then the whole train would be held up with a medical event. Doesn’t happen though, as they don’t get public transport unless they have someone to accompany them in the event they do become unwell (even if seated, but a lot less chance). Anyone who accompanies just does the automatic response quickly followed by a ‘fuck off’ if people keep going on about the seat.
Zero problem with anyone who needs it asking in general for a seat. Huge problems with people making assumptions on others health/needs and targeting individuals to give up their seat.