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Londoners not giving up seats on tube for pregnant women

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ParkAndRider · 04/12/2024 09:42

I am 32 weeks pregnant with an obvious large bump and wear a baby on board badge. I commute at rush hour and usually every time I get on board the tube there are no seats available. I see the people sitting glance at me and then look pretend and pretend they haven't noticed. I've just endured another journey standing the whole way feeling tired and dizzy because no one will offer a seat. Yes I could ask but it would feel uncomfortable why can't anyone offer? Surely all the people sitting can't be hiding various disabilities?

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Mindyourfunkybusiness · 07/12/2024 22:41

Rosscameasdoody · 07/12/2024 21:28

Why would l consider using crutches when l’m already in a wheelchair ?

Idk, why would you think that's a serious suggestion? Dying for an argument it seems then.

Mindyourfunkybusiness · 07/12/2024 22:48

Rosscameasdoody · 07/12/2024 21:38

Didn’t assume anything. You didn’t say you were disabled, you said ‘when l had crutches’. And ‘jog on’ is a term often used on MN - not usually taken literallly, but then you knew that.

You assumed I meant use crutches in pregnancy literally, so why not assume I'm not disabled? Sounds like we have a queen/king/non binary (don't want to give you another reason to assume that I assumed your gender and get offended at that) royalty of assumptions here.
Ever crossed your mind that crutches moved onto something more severe? Oh no you just assume I'm able bodied and then try to start a fight over very obvious sarcasm.
Why do you assume I know a term that's often used on mumsnet? Maybe that term triggered me, because I can't bloody jog?

You cannot understand sarcasm, that's okay, there's many different people out there. However, you're literally begging for an argument. And then you're making assumptions and triggering my lack of ability to jog. How mean.

Didimum · 07/12/2024 23:03

I get the tube for 40 minutes twice a day, 5 days a week and regularly see people offering their seats to pregnant women and the elderly. You must be an anomaly or making yourself too inconspicuous.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/12/2024 09:10

Mindyourfunkybusiness · 07/12/2024 22:41

Idk, why would you think that's a serious suggestion? Dying for an argument it seems then.

I pointed out in my post that I’m disabled myself. You clearly missed that because you suggested l’m the type of person who would use crutches in order to be seen as disabled. I’m not engaging with your nonsense posts any longer. I found your post offensive to disabled people for reasons l’ve explained. It wasn’t clear to me that you were being sarcastic, and still isn’t. I called you out on what l consider to be ableism and your response was to insult.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/12/2024 09:14

XenoBitch · 07/12/2024 21:55

It does not matter if it does not meet the definition of a disability. Someone on crutches due to a broken foot would not meet the definition either, but I would hope no one would give them shit for sitting in a priority seat.

This.

Boomer55 · 08/12/2024 09:17

TootingTish · 06/12/2024 07:31

I’m am sure some people live in a parallel universe. I’ve been commuting in London for over 35 years and travel at least five days a week as WFH is not an option for me (I also travelled to school by tube) and have never seen anyone told to fuck off for asking for a seat, and on an almost daily basis see people offered seats if pregnant, wearing a blue badge or elderly. I’ve also never seen anyone abused for offering a seat even if the person asked doesn’t need it.

Yes, as have I. I’ve never seen or had a problem. People are generally polite and courteous on London Transport.👍

Well, other than the mums who think a pushchair tops a wheelchair in a wheelchair bay on a bus. 🙄

Lentilweaver · 08/12/2024 09:20

Yesterday a young Asian man gave me his seat on the Tube again on a very crowded line. Don't know if he thought I was pregnant or just old! Anyway I took it.

Personally I dont care what the definition of disability is. I will give a seat to anyone struggling as long as I am able to stand.

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BellissimoGecko · 08/12/2024 09:31

If someone is sitting in a priority seat, they should be aware of people getting on the tube who may need that seat.

But yes, ask people in priority seats to move for you.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/12/2024 10:01

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I understand sarcasm very well thanks - which is why l didn’t recognise it in your posts.

I don’t actually believe you are disabled. Two reasons. Firstly If you were, you wouldn’t have posted as you did about the crutches because you would be aware of the offence you were causing to those who genuinely rely on disability aids, and the deep seated issues around perfectly able bodied people ‘faking it’ to take advantage of disability concessions and benefits.

Secondly. In this day and age there is respect for a wide range of diversity in society, which very often isn’t extended to disabled people. Sadly, some still think it’s fine to insult, berate and make fun of them. I called you out on something l found offensive as a disabled person. In response you ignored my point and went straight to berating, insulting, making fun and questioning my intelligence. So if you are genuinely disabled, which l doubt, you might want to think on how you treat your peers, because on this showing you haven’t exactly covered yourself in glory.

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