DH pisses around toilet

[PissoirPissedOff]

We moved into our new home and the first thing I did was to clean the bathroom, including disinfecting the toilet area which was covered in mouldy spots. Within about an hour, DH had pissed all over the rim of the toilet and the floor just under the toilet had a small puddle of piss. I have asked him not to do this, just to wipe it dry when he misses the bowl. He says this is not his job.

I'm not particularly OCD about this sort of thing, I just like a clean bathroom and would prefer to clean it just once a week rather than daily/hourly.

I AM being unreasonable = This is beyond the scope of what is expected of a normal male in his own home.

I am NOT being unreasonable = Why can't he just make that small effort (quick wipe with tissues) so that I don't have to clean the toilet every day, and to save me getting my toes wet in a puddle of his piss?

No, he does all the cooking. But I work more than him. The issue is just this. I can't believe he doesn't accept it's unfair.

That is truly disgusting. Did you ask him exactly whose job it is? It’s not a blind spot, he thinks your place is to clean his piss up.

Is the hole not big enough for his cock?

Mine did.

Does he do it at work? At his friend's houses?

It's not normal, it's not funny and it's not a small deal.

You'd actually be amazed at how many men do this! They are revolting! My manager and I literally had this conversation a few days ago and she said she would never have married her husband had she known he'd piss over the toilet!!

I mean ffs they have been provided with a spout - why is it so difficult to direct it?!! And don't get me started on the skidmarks in the toilet bowl! Why the hell can't they just clean up their own mess?!!

Mine too 😆

YANBU - ask him what happens if you have a leak when on your period and it goes all over his car seat? surely his car is his place to clean so he'd be happy doing that I assume? or if you had a weak bladder and peed in the car that'd be fine, no expectation of you to clean it?

That's a massively disrespectful thing for him to do, it has to be deliberate on his part. I'd be losing the plot on this, whose job does he think it is if not his own to clean up behind himself. I can't believe he behaves like that at work/other peoples homes. Dirty disgusting skank

My grandmother would have got him by the scruff of the neck and shoved his face in it.

Go to Aldi and buy some packs of those disposable nappy changing mats, and cover the area around the toilet with them.

And make sure that his relatives/friends know why they're there when they visit.

How are you bringing yourself to eat the meals Mr PeePee makes? Clearly no sense of hygiene.

Hungry!! 😀

I believe men miss the toilet bowl but I don’t believe someone needs to come on MN to ask opinions about it.

Every day on here my eyes roll back into my head and I ask myself why the fuck do women put up with these manky husbands?

When he said it wasn’t his job, how did you respond? Did you not immediately ask him whose job he thinks it is to clean up his urine?

If not, then why not?

What!? It's a pretty obvious task. Even for 5 and 6 year olds who may have aim mishaps. As boys grow older they will have been exposed to older boys / men who have just done what needs to be done in a urina and they learn the etiquttel? By the age of at least puberty if a boy cannot aim into a toilet (consistently) then there has to be some sort of medical explanation or just willful not doing it.

For whatever reason it should not be down to OP to clear it up. Just because he's decided its her job to clear up his piss. Not a good sign.

Exactly my thought.

Raise your bar please @PissoirPissedOff - you deserve more than food made from unwashed urine stained hands, because if he CBA to clean the floor, he sure as hell wont be washing his hands after he poos and wees before he cooks.

No one is THAT hungry 💩

I honestly wouldn't if he was generally an arsehole. This is a strange aberration so I'm questioning my judgement.

It is not just unfair. It is so far beyond that.

Yes, of course I said that. But it didn't get me anywhere. He just doesn't get it.

It's abusive.

Little boys need their mummy to clean their mess. Men don't.

What does he say when you ask whose job it is?

"It is not my job", how demeaning a thing is that to say to his wife.

I would be furious at his hygiene habits but even more disgusted at that statement.

If that is his attitude, I would be telling my soon to be ex husband to do one, until he finds some self respect for himself and learns how to treat you properly.

Actually, I would give my husband an enormous drink and whilst he is relaxing, I would go and poor water all over the toilet seat and on the floor around the toilet. When he goes mad, tell him its not your job to clean it up and see how he likes it.

Or when you have a mate of his visiting, if they ask to use the loo, offer them a pack of wipes as they ask and explain hubby has a habit of missing the pot and refuses to clean it so best be prepared and then see if he continues. Shame him into submission.