DH pisses around toilet

[PissoirPissedOff]

We moved into our new home and the first thing I did was to clean the bathroom, including disinfecting the toilet area which was covered in mouldy spots. Within about an hour, DH had pissed all over the rim of the toilet and the floor just under the toilet had a small puddle of piss. I have asked him not to do this, just to wipe it dry when he misses the bowl. He says this is not his job.

I'm not particularly OCD about this sort of thing, I just like a clean bathroom and would prefer to clean it just once a week rather than daily/hourly.

I AM being unreasonable = This is beyond the scope of what is expected of a normal male in his own home.

I am NOT being unreasonable = Why can't he just make that small effort (quick wipe with tissues) so that I don't have to clean the toilet every day, and to save me getting my toes wet in a puddle of his piss?

My thoughts exactly. Be very careful @PissoirPissedOff he is not showing himself in the best light. Think it through.

Stop being meek and leave a shit on the toilet seat.

Someone in my university halls did it, it worked.

Is there one toilet or two? Keep one toilet for you and keep it locked with a key.

He’s already done that 🤣

Op has highlighted that this is probably why he does it at home as they used to live behind a forest and he would just piss out the balcony into said forest 😝

Like someone said upthread, I’m starting to think is is a wind up as the updates are something else and becoming progressively ridiculous 🤣🤣

My Xh used to do this, and blamed it on my son who was about 5 or 6 at the time. Also pissed up the shower curtain on a regular basis "everybody pisses in the shower". It was "my job" to clean it up. I found it very disrespectful (not to mention disgusting), like he was showing me my place and it was one of the reasons I left. I now live just with my son, who is 22 and sits down to pee, as do a lot of his friends (through choice, not because it's a "rule"). So tell him to sit. Or LTB.

I’ve got a DH and we have four adult sons between us, not one of them does or has ever done this!

Id fuck him off for this dirty fecker 😡

My MIL has her bad points, but she did teach her son to sit on the loo while having a piss.. and for that I will always love her.,

My eleven month old puppy would be ashamed and mortified if she did a wee in the wrong place.

Did you ask him whose job it is if it’s not his?

What doesn't he get? Does he think it actually doesn't need to be cleaned up and that it's totally fine to leave it there so why are you nagging him, or does he actually think that it is your job to clean up his piss?

In both scenarios, he is being an inconsiderate twat but I'm interested in his reasoning/rationale.

It's not the missing the toilet bowl that has brought OP to Mumsnet, but the fact that her DH says it's not his job to clean it up.

He's disgusting. As an aside does he clean the actual pan after he's taken a dump? Because as far as I am concerned that is just something everyone should do. Leave the toilet as you would like to find it.
And I hope he stands in his own urine too. That 'll teach him!

I'm hoping this thread is a wind up because it's so vile and disgusting. Not only your DH behaviour and attitude, but that you're finding it somewhat funny judging by your responses.

If an adult man can't aim into the bowl when standing then he should sit to pee. Personally I'd embarrass him next time you're visiting the in-laws and ask why he was never taught to use a toilet properly, or to clean up his misses after himself.

Alternatively, purchase some fake Halloween blood and next time you have your period, leave some around the rim to make him think it's menstrual blood. When he complains, tell him you'll clean it off at the end of the week when you're mopping up his urine.

Dirty bastard.

Yes I know - i meant he can return there

I'm really struggling to understand how an otherwise reasonable person could think that "it's not my job" was an acceptable response when informed they'd peed on the floor and toilet seat. Getting a few drops on the rim of the bowl can happen occasionally (yes, even for women) but you wipe it up with a bit of paper.

There's a big difference between "cleaning the bathroom", which could be one partner's responsibility in a reasonable division of household tasks, and wiping up specific splashes from inaccurate urination. You shouldn't leave visible blobs of bodily fluids in a public toilet for an unknown paid professional cleaner to deal with for you. And you certainly don't do so at home for someone you're supposed to love and cherish.

It never fails to amaze me how low some women set the bar when it comes to men.

Have some self-respect and ditch him. What happens when he uses the loo at other people's houses? Do you run in after him and clear up?

Story of my life, I'm afraid! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well, quite. I'm waiting to see what he says when he gets up this morning. Maybe he was drunk? We were celebrating moving in.

I've only noticed it here because the bathroom is bright with a tiled floor and we both share it. I took such pride in cleaning it with pretty scented Method stuff, and then was really gutted to see it all messed up within an hour or so.

Just put one of his T-shirts on the floor around the base of the toilet.

Everyone seems rightly appalled at the "Not my job" comment, but the real question here is why can't he just, y'know, not piss on the floor?

Ask him if he has trouble aiming because his nob is so far away from the toilet

All resolved this morning.

From now on he sits. And wipes up any accidents.

Believe it or not, he didn't realise it would seriously bother me!

Without revealing too much here, I think we're making the transition from sharing a wide open space (sort of the house equivalent of camping) to sharing a small space. One that I want to keep pretty and fresh!

I can’t get my head around this idea that he’s learning how to live in a normal house with a normal toilet and that’s why he can’t piss like an adult human.

Has he ever held a job? Visited someone in their home? Been to a restaurant?

If so, he’s used a toilet.

Ask if his mother never toilet trained him properly. I'd be asking him if his mother trained him to piss on the floor, instead of in the bowl.

What about shit skidmarks in the bowl? Does he leave them for you because it's not his job? Please consider a life that doesn't have him in it.

Hurrah! He’s agreed to do the bare minimum. 😂

Honestly it’s just another sad example of how (some) men will happily disrespect their partners to the extent they can get away with it.

If Op hadn’t have pushed back on this so quickly, he’d have probably continued leaving it for her to clean up.

Hurrah! He has agreed to act as my sons did at age 5 - to clean up their own urine!

What a gent - a prince amongst men. You are soooo lucky @PissoirPissedOff