DH pisses around toilet

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We moved into our new home and the first thing I did was to clean the bathroom, including disinfecting the toilet area which was covered in mouldy spots. Within about an hour, DH had pissed all over the rim of the toilet and the floor just under the toilet had a small puddle of piss. I have asked him not to do this, just to wipe it dry when he misses the bowl. He says this is not his job.

I'm not particularly OCD about this sort of thing, I just like a clean bathroom and would prefer to clean it just once a week rather than daily/hourly.

I AM being unreasonable = This is beyond the scope of what is expected of a normal male in his own home.

I am NOT being unreasonable = Why can't he just make that small effort (quick wipe with tissues) so that I don't have to clean the toilet every day, and to save me getting my toes wet in a puddle of his piss?

Can you give a bucket in the garden?

Animals are cleaner.

He either needs his prostate checked or you need to buy a bullseye sticker and place it inside the bowl 🎯 .

Alternatively, wiping your fanny with his pillowcase sounds interesting as per another PP 🤣

Or you can refer to today’s other post about a toothbrush for more 💡 details ideas

This x100.

He has no respect for you, and I simply don't believe that he is otherwise considerate.

Dump him and raise your standards.

Literally!

Does he do the same at work? At the pub?Visiting his mum?
If it’s just at home , along with his ‘ it’s not my job’ attitude I’d say it’s pure contempt for you. Sorry.
Can’t imagine staying with a man like this.

OP
This is NOT a blind spot- whatever that is. He TOLD YOU he doesn’t think it’s his job. He actively chooses to piss around the toilet. He thinks it is your job to clean his piss.

My youngest son is 7. He has ASD and has literally just toilet trained this month.

Even HE can piss in the loo without hitting the rim or floor.

His piss - his job.

Does he want you to wipe his arse as well, because maybe that is not his job either!!?😠

If his aim is bad then he can sit down to pee if he didn't want to clean up after himself.

Have you asked him whose job it is?

”If I clean it up, I’ll be using your favourite t-shirt to do so. And leaving it on your pillow afterwards” would be my response.

Not his job? Take the trash out OP and raise your bar. Only piss I’m cleaning is my kids’.

WHY! Just why would anyone think it’s your job to wipe up their piss!

And why can’t he just piss in the bowl!

What an utter pig. He can sort it if he cares enough.

Whose job does he think it is then? If you live in a shared home and you make a mess then of course you clean it! How does he not recognise this?

No, it's not a blind spot he is a disgusting pig who thinks it's your job to clean his piss up.

What a disgraceful man

My vagina would dry up and close for business if my DH did that.

He does it deliberately. Why would you put up with this?

My ex does this too. Even worse his dad once pissed in the bathroom sink in our house, when we were still together (And didn't rinse it) (The sink is adjacent to the toilet) (And no there are no cognitive issues or other reasons why he did this).

Make him a GP appointment when he can hear you and make sure to tell the receptionist that it's because his urine is going everywhere instead of in the toilet so he's going to need an urgent referral to a urologist.

If you think he's 'considerate in all other ways' I'm thinking this is because in all other ways your dynamic is that you look after and clean up after him and he very occasionally 'helps' or doesnt obstruct you. So you cook his tea and he considerately bring his plate in for you to wash? Or considerately put his pants in the laundry basket? Lifts his feet while you hoover? Am I right? Because, there is no way a man who would tell you that isn't his job could ever be considerate in the way most women would understand the word. No able bodied person who expects another person to clean up their bodily fluids is considerate. Not even close.

Ask him whose responsibility he thinks it is - I need to know!

Clue - it 100% is not yours.

Not his job? So whose job is it to clean his piss? Who does he think is beneath him that he's too good to clean it, but reasonable for someone else? Time for him to sit down and tuck it down when he pees.

Is he over 80? Old men ca be stupid and miss, otherwise HD is just dick.