Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

Your continued use of the derogatory term ‘bimbo’ makes me think you are more invested in this than you have led us to believe.

Are you 12 as you're the only one coming across as having little up top......

Tbh you don't sound any better than the man. To call someone a bimbo says a lot about you.

It's also non of your business.

And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.

I’m 53 and DH is 56 and we went to Disneyland Paris this time last year. No children, just the two of us, we love it.

You sound horrendous, OP. Calling a woman 'bimbo' and doubling down in your pointless follow up post.

It's this man who deserves your ire, it's his son. Whatever this woman is or isn't, she isn't responsible for him.

I think you lost 99% of the audience when you called (and kept calling her) a bimbo.

He sounds like a shit dad but you sound super judgemental and mean

Thread translation - I'm overcome with jealousy whenever I see a man and his new partner who is younger and more attractive than me.

Just none of your business.
Where he goes on holiday with his gf is none of your business. She may be a life long Disney fan that's her dream holiday. She may be paying for it.
He will have to deal with the fallout with his own family and child
Don't interfere. Don't say anything.

Awful man. Why on earth are he and his girlfriend wanting to go to Disneyland, for goodness sake? It's primarily a kids' fun place. I can't think of anything worse.

He is stupid and selfish.

He’s entitled to a holiday without his child in the same way the mum can have a child free holiday at some point, if she wants to. A holiday as a couple vs a family holiday are two completely separate activities.
Calling his new partner a bimbo makes you sound silly. Why are you so invested?

What the fuck's any of this got to do with you? Wind your neck in and leave people alone.

Bet you and the ex have both enjoyed slagging his girlfriend off haven’t you?

Exactly right!

She would ofcourse, but in this case the woman does look and acts like a bimbo.

This woman has blonde hair and giggles. So she is a thick bimbo.

I think you need to unpick why the f you are so invested in people you hardly know and are verbally abusive about a woman you don't know.

Odd.

DH and I are going to Orlando next week. We don't have kids and his are adults so it'll just be the two of us. We've done it before and love it.

These people are not even related to you so what concern is of yours how they live their life. Just say: Nice and move on.

I believe you're right. It has sparked more outrage than a father who doesn't like paying for his kid splurges on Disneyland for himself and his bimbo. Oops I did it again.

I think it’s sad & selfish of the man.

A dad going to Disneyland and not taking his kid... he's a twat.
You referring to new girlfriend as "bimbo", "not alot brain activity going on"... makes you a bigger twat.
You can wreck the most noble of causes with your language.

Youre correct that he's a shit dad, I don't know anyone who would go to Disneyland without their dc's. But he's made it quite clear he doesn't give a crap about his kid and resents having to pay for him so I wouldn't be so surprised.

Don't call women bimbo's - it's misogynistic.

“Bimbo” is awful.

Man goes on holiday with girlfriend. And?

Yabu. Adults are people in their own right, this identity isn’t tied to their children. Totally fun to go to Disneyland as an adult and enjoy.

It doesn’t actually make her a bigger twat. She’s not seriously skimping on the time, effort, love and money she provides for her son. She’s not sneaking off to a child’s dream holiday and keeping it secret from her child because she can’t be arsed bringing him. She’s not flaunting a relationship with a younger woman while whining about how much her own child costs her.

Since we are declaiming grand principles, you can let the most noble of causes be wrecked by your fixating on one detail and blowing it up to bigger than everything else even though it isn’t. I do not for a moment support bimbo but I think the op would be less inclined to use the term if the man weren’t walking around with a neon sign above his head that said ‘massive selfish twat and shitty dad’. Let’s focus on that.