Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

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Your point is a good one. I agree with others you shouldn’t have called the woman a bimbo or taken this out on her in your post.

But yes the man is being ridiculous and very cruel.

Don't see anything wrong with him going to Disney land.
Me and DP would absolutely go without dc as it's under a grand for just us two but to add in dc it's closer to six grand.
I'd go but I know the guilt would eat at me, so I haven't

My thought exactly. Your issue with the dad's parenting stance is nothing to do with your use of outdated and misogynistic stereotypes OP. To me, your unkind and judgemental language stands out more than the issue you had in the first place!

Disney is amazing for adults. I've been twice with the kids and while it's magical there's lots of planning around them, trying to entertain them in queues, accommodate their food preferences, go back to the hotel for a rest when they need it, miss the fireworks as they are on too late.
I would totally go (to Disney Paris) with my husband for a couple of days without the kids. It would be a different experience altogether.

Personally I think laughing about it makes him a pretty rubbish person but then sometimes you say things to cover up the discomfort so could be that too. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable but at the same time I suppose new relationship etc.

I've never used misogynistic language towards another woman.

He sounds like a crap, selfish father, but I don't think telling his ex will help anything, she can't force him to take his son.

What's up, bitter much?
Bimbo - haven't heard that one for some time.
Adults make their own choices, fortunately.
That includes "bimbos", too.

Not quite the responses you expected @Maria1979 ?
I'm sure he's ot the first man to get with a younger woman after divorce. As long as she wasn't an OW she has done nothing wrong.

I was prepared to side with you until you used the term Bimbo, and that is why I think you are being unreasonable.

You sound very bitter towards this woman. Maybe you wish you were going to Disneyland with him.
For what it's worth I don't see the appeal of Disneyland as an adult but that's beside the point. Not everything has to involve children. And it's none of your business really.

Strange nowadays to hear women speaking of other women in such a misogynistic way

Nah. Have a look on at anything to do with being a single parent. Truly terrifying.

but bimbo, OP, really?

"Bimbo"? Seriously?

Better to be a bimbo than a b#tch.

Speaks volumes about you calling the gf a bimbo. Are you jealous because she's younger / more attractive than you? Whatever the reason you are over invested in the relationship which ever way you look at it.
I certainly wouldn't want you as a friend if that's how you talk about other women even if it's only on here.

Well as you said "it's none of your business"

Sorry for those taking offense with bimbo. I think I just went on with what ex calls her. She would ofcourse, but in this case the woman does look and acts like a bimbo. She even exaggerates it to the point I wonder if she's roleplaying. But ofcourse we shouldn't call other women bimbos, sorry for that.
He's being really stingy with ex and his son so this whole splashing money and not on his son it does feel very immoral. I won't tell her as I said and I'm not invested more than that I had a few minutes rant on mn since I can't tell my friends about it.

I’m disinclined to read anything after “bimbo” as you’re clearly misogynistic and over-invested so I’m guessing this whole thing is a pile of nonsense anyway.

The Dad sounds like an asshole, but your stereotyping of the woman is poor. How can you tell how intelligent someone is from passing conversations? Sometimes the people who come across as absolute space cadets during small talks are actually nuclear physicists!

I knew someone who referred to her ex as 'the retard' and her two sons did the same. There really are some very bitter and nasty people out there.

@Maria1979 " but in this case the woman does look and acts like a bimbo."

Not sure that helps as much as you think it does.

To be fair, I don’t see how you can go off with a married man who has a kid without being a bitch.

I agree they both sound awful ( him for being a shit dad, her for being OW ) but why are you exchanging pleasantries with them? They're not family members, so you don't need to keep them sweet. Next time tell them exactly what you think of them, and wipe the smug little smile off their faces. Sometimes conflict is necessary.

This happened to my child - ex and his new wife went to Disney as part of their honeymoon, but they bought DS, then 6, a Disney bauble, so he has a memento that they thought of him when they were away.

Can you cut off contact with the father and his girlfriend - even if they're family you can can reduce contact to a minimum.

I am a bit surprised that most posters are much more shocked about how you refer to the new girlfriend that what an awful father this man is, I suppose few of us are shocked that men do this. At least he's showing the new girlfriend what a shite father he is, so she won't be too surprised if she has a kid with him.