Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

Another one saying YABVU for the bimbo shit, says a lot more about your brain than hers. As does lacking the imagination to see that someone over 40 could enjoy Disneyland.

Maybe do some work on your internalised misogyny.

Once you've figured that out, unpack why you believe parents must do everything with their child?
Many adults love Disney.

He may be a crap man and a shit father, but you are really showing yourself up with your OP.

So this woman is really nice and sweet but you have chosen to ridicule her and call her names?

And you're judging HIM?

You don't know the whole story. Maybe the Mum has said no to the older child going or they have plans for that period. It's easy to judge from the outside looking in but what does any of it have to do with you, really. You speak in very derogatory terms so it's clear you'd be judging them whatever they do.

Of course couples can have childfree holidays, I hope the dad regularly takes the child in school holidays so mum can have a childfree holiday too (doubt it!).

But Disneyland? Totally agree, a decent parents first thought would be that child has to come.

And why are people sticking up for bimbo, after all, it sounds like she's absolutely fine having an affair with a married man, which does sound pretty thick of her. He's clearly a cheating twat who's happy to rarely see his son and thinks money grows on trees for children, so more fool her really.

Yep, OP, you're not wrong. There's a lot of selfish parents out there, most notably men who leave their families and shirk their responsibilities.

This!

Wouldn't you think the dad would say that then? Come on.

You don’t sound as if there’s a whole lot of ‘brain activity’ going on with you, either, OP. And regardless of where the former husband of a friend of a friend is going on holiday with his new partner, why on earth would you be telling someone who isn’t even a friend of yours? Step back and maybe work on your internal misogyny.

What is the issue, though? It's not a family holiday that he is leaving his son out of. He's just going on holiday with his girlfriend.

Blimey op, judgemental much? I think paying less attention to what other grown adults get up to, and less name calling, might help you be a happier person..

I wonder what the 'bimbo' thinks of you?

Predictably (because this is MN) OP you’re being told that your use of the word “bimbo” is unacceptable. Obviously having an affair, leaving your wife and child, and being a shit father is OK. But calling someone a bimbo apparently isn’t. In the real world we all know what a bimbo is in this situation - a young, overly made-up, less intelligent than the ex wife, trophy girlfriend - who the man has got to boost his mid-life crisis male ego. But on MN posters will pompously chastise anyone who acknowledges that such people exist!

I would probably keep quiet though, because it would be awful if his son ever found out. I remember being broken when I heard my Dad had taken his latest girlfriend and her kids on holiday.

The way you talk about his girlfriend is vile. Rather than criticising others, perhaps you should take a long hard look at yourself.

My Ex-H recently went to Orlando to do Disney World and Universal Studios with his partner and without our 3 primary aged kids. It did seem a bit odd to me but 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's got fuck all to do with you. I assume you are using the term Bimbo to be goady. Mission accomplished.

Why should he? I've had issues with my ex before but kept them to myself, not everyone wants to air their dirty laundry in public. Maybe he is just a prick, maybe not but focusing so much on someone else's situation that you aren't that close to seems OTT. That's my opinion, you are welcome to yours.

Fuck off,if you're a woman I'm the king of Spain Maria1979.my bum.

Sounds like he is an arse. But sounds like you are too. Are we in the 50s to be referring to women as "bimbos?" You are a misogynist, have a word with yourself.

This is ridiculous. Please don't call someone a bimbo - it's just nasty.

Also, I have a DS and would very happily go on a solo holiday to Disney - I probably won't because I have full custody so wouldn't have time without deliberately ditching him, but if he regularly had contact with his dad 100% I would go on my own - it's a different vibe when you don't take children. And if I were dating someone, I'd take him!

Well, I think we’ve found the Dad’s ex wife. Alive, kicking and FULL of internalised (well, not very) misogyny.

This

Why are you this invested in someone else’s relationship? You seem insane. Get a life.

I went to Disneyland with my children and it was fucking awful. Fuck knows why you’d want to go WITHOUT any kids.

Calling other women a bimbo, just automatically makes me think that’s she attractive, and you’re not happy about that.

youve already judged his new gf and do not know the ins and outs of how he parents his child. isnt he entitled to have some fun with his gf wherever that is - whether its ibiza or disneyland? you should stay out of this one

Regardless of the rights and wrongs of this man’s conduct, your repeated childish dehumanising of the girlfriend makes me think you’d be better off focusing on correcting your own attitudes and behaviour.

Doubtless OP won’t be back to this thread though. 🙄