Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

We only know she is " a young, overly made-up, less intelligent than the ex wife, trophy girlfriend" because of the misogynistic stereotype coined by.. you guessed it, men who are "having an affair, leaving your wife and child, and being a shit father". For a woman to adopt this terminology, she has to be a paid member of "boys will be boys" club.
Just because a man is behaving as a shit father and a husband, doesn't mean that we should absolve him of any responsibility for doing so by degrading a woman he chose as his middle-age ego boost. But we don't hear an OP calling him names. Instead, she chose to put the responsibility squarely on the new woman. Why is that?

Are you the ex? If not you are overly invested and sour about the whole situation.

You are coming across as being really mean.

as far as going to Disneyland without children that’s fine, people are allowed to do things without children.

Yes it's disgusting behaviour from a father but also using the term "bimbo" is disgusting tbh , the "other woman" hasn't done anything wrong as far as I can see?

Look regardless about whatever you called that lady. People are more bothered about that. Then what this dad is doing , fair enough People can have holidays that don't involve children. But f Disneyland at Christmas. A bit of a p*, take when you have an 8 year old kid

And this is how you're kicking off your week? Fucking hell, you must be knackered by Friday.

Two things can be true at once you know. His actions are shit but OP loses any moral high ground by being a misogynist.

You sound like a hateful and judgemental person. None of this is any of your business

Better to stay out of other people’s relationshops. Even better not to refer to women as Bimbos.😠

Your friend was right though, why on earth would you ruin a perfectly good holiday by bringing along the kids? Doesn't make you a bad parent, on holiday now and have witnessed several parents looking like they are having such a stressful time! You are entitled to have a life as a patent and there is nothing at all wrong with leaving the kids with Grandma who probably enjoys the time with the kids.

If the OP is calling this poor woman a Bimbo (who has done absolutely nothing wrong and wtf which decade are we in the 70's) I would bet money that the "bimbo" is secretly calling the OP "Karen".

Completely pathetic op with the repeated uses of "Bimbo"

Also the pathetic poster siding with the op use of said word like criticism of op is enabling the dad's behaviour.

It's two different things.

The only one with seemingly less intelligence seems to be the op.

Clearly a trip as a couple is different from a trip with his son. Just stay out of it.

Yeah, I couldn't get past you calling her a bimbo. Nasty, misogynist term.

You lost me at bimbo

If she is indeed a young woman considered to be attractive but not intelligent, then she probably is a bimbo as that is how one is defined. Dunno why people are getting so hung up on this.

and what mother would be happy about the father of their 8 year old child, getting with someone nearly half their age, slagging their kid off, then to top it off, go to a CHILD ORIENTED PLACE without them. A 40 something man going to Disney land with his new 25 year old bit of fluff… c’mon! It’s just selfish and unnecessary

You are allowed to go on holiday without your children …

No it isn't. It's just fucking rude to call someone a bimbo.

Sorry, have you ever been rude to anyone in your whole life? I’m sure you have. It’s not a crime

He sounds like a prat but she’s done nothing wrong and you’re calling her derogatory names presumably because she’s what…young? Blonde? Doesn’t help your cause. I’d just leave it - the ex sounds shot of him.

Stop using the word bimbo.
Why are you so invested in this? Is the ex not in fact a friend of a friend of as you claim but is actually you? The level of anger levelled at the new girlfriend would suggest you are closer to this than you claim.

As to your question. You should stay out of it. It's none of your business. Some adults like to go to Disneyland too and the couple are perfectly entitled to have a holiday anywhere they want without his son.

Bimbo??? What a disgusting word!

Another goady bitchplop and run thread
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Disneyland is good for adults too. Why would you hurt the ex. and child’s feeling by telling them?

Well that’s not very nice.

You sound a bit jealous to be honest. I'd guess that you're the ex wife, not your "friend". I can't think why you'd be so catty about his new "bimbo" otherwise.
He doesn't sound very nice either tbh.
YABU

The use of the word Bimbo means you lost ANY credibility at all.

Way to attack and put down other women for no reason while also showing how incredibly bias your story is to one side.