Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

I'm sorry, but you say not your circus, not your monkeys, but then later judge adults going to Disney who are doing nothing wrong, who are simply minding there own business. That's incredibly hypocritical of you.

HI Op - inclined to agree with the poster there who said they wouldn’t invite you. I wear babydoll dresses quite regularly and have a husband who’s 10 years old and we go on holiday just the two of us….i must be a bimbo…oh wait no I’m chartered in my field on a 6 figure salary before 30. Stop being horrible and judgmental over the way the girl dresses and looks. If anything it looking more like jealous contempt than actual concern for the child.

I stand by my opinion.

Well done (?)
Valid point well made

😂

Why is everyone attacking OP?! I’m sure if the woman in question really does wear pink all the time and has long blonde hair she wouldn’t even find the word bimbo insulting! Bimbo is a new aesthetic and movement, and often you will hear “Bimbos” talk about female empowerment and owning the aesthetic.

The ex husband sounds like an arse just because he left his wife for a younger woman more than anything.

@ChubbyBubbyBoo is that an attempt at humour or do you really think that ?

I genuinely believe that if the OP’s description of how the woman presents herself is accurate then she wouldn’t be offended by being called a Bimbo. I know of two woman who dress in such a way and call themselves bimbos.

A link to a social commentary of the Bimbo movement.

However, I think the thread was massively derailed by the use of the word and OP shouldn’t have used it. But why is it always women attacking women? The focus should be on what a piece of rubbish the ex husband is!

@ChubbyBubbyBoo I dint need your link to "social commentary"
Op spoiled the thread herself with her general attitude not just the word choices she made.
She thought everyone would back her, she's the type of person who uses #bekind whilst spouting off this drivel

I'm blonde. But I don't wear babydoll dresses and giggle hysterically non stop.

Why did you mention her being blonde then? What was the relevance?

Because it’s clear from her misogynistic post that she has no actual regard for the wellbeing or feelings of the child or ex.

Not really. I might privately judge them (based on nothing more than my own experience, I hasten to add) but I don't make it my business to get involved and comment on/ invite comment on their choices (excepting specific threads, such as this one, which invites opinions). Most (all) people form opinions about most (all) things inwardly that they don't go around saying.

What utter bilge. You know full well what the usage is.
I don't know if you're male or female but either way you know how the term is used.
You're being offensive about a woman. As has been pointed out. Many, many times.
I'm reminded of another thread and some idiot tried to argue that the N word wasn't offensive because of some usage from 1638.
Racists and misogynists always try to justify themselves.

DH and I are going to Orlando on Sunday. Just the two of us, his kids are grown up. I find it more 'fucking weird' that you judge people for where they choose to holiday

I can make judgements where I like to and I do think it odd for adults to go on holiday to something that in my view is made specifically for children, or people who have the mental age much younger than their years. Get offended all you like.

I couldn’t agree more. Especially one being in his 40s and the other 25… old enough to be her dad though I guess

@ByHardyRubyEagle what holiday destinations do you approve of ?

People can go on holiday where they want, it’s not an approval situation. I just think it’s odd to go to Disneyland as an adult without children. I used to want to go there as a 6 year old, but the novelty wore off. I’d like very much to go to the alps to a fucking spa hotel, because I’m exhausted, that’s my version of Disneyland!

I’m not sure why what type of woman she is, as if you’re even in a position to accurately judge her - she’d hardly be inclined to engage you in a conversation on theoretical physics as her boyfriend makes small talk on passing, no matter what she dresses like - has anything to do with, well, anything.

Would you consider him any less of a shit dad if she was dressed down? Or in office attire?

Your attitude to him and her is more concerning. Comments about bimbo, not much going on in the brain and ' how a man in his forties can enjoy Disneyland is beyond me'. Me and my ex went to Disneyland several times and i'm going next year with a current partner. So what. I'm over 40.

Personally I can't think of anything more boring than a spa hotel in the alps but, unlike you, I'm not passing judgement on you for wanting to go.

Plenty adults go to Disney without children. It’s not a pre requisite to take kids. I know lots of absolutely Disney obsessed adults. And not all kids like theme park rides or theme parks in general.

You lost me at referring to a women several times as a bimbo. Who needs misogynistic men, with women with your attitude.

You've changed your tune a bit, since getting called out 😂

she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on

OP, just a point re brain activity:

• a lot (with a space) followed by of
• aggressive
• offence

Just being helpful!