Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

I think it's odd that this eating you up so much from a "friend of a friend's" perspective.

It would make a lot more sense if it was the ex wife (boy's mum) writing this.

That's what I'm thinking.

Agreed!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-14120613/afford-children-Disneyland-school-holidays-went-without-them.html have you been "reading" the daily mail for inspiration?

As unpleasant as the responses she's getting on this thread? A lot of posters bypassing a man who only sees his son two weekends a month taking his girlfriend to Disney (explicitly behind his son's back) to focus on name calling a woman who used a term they don't like.

But why hold a man accountable when you can pile on another woman and imply she's jealous of a 'younger, more attractive' woman and call her 'catty' and 'a bitch' (no misogyny there!).

The most telling comment is: 'He may be a crap man and a shit father, but you are really showing yourself up with your OP'. Lmao.

Quite apart from the misogyny of the term, using "bimbo" makes you look really insecure about your appearance.

EOW is a common arrangement. On other threads we’re always told that men who want 50/50 are wankers who want to deprive kids of their mums and to save on child maintenance. Which is it?

Going on holiday with his girlfriend when he doesn’t have his son is fine, absolutely fine and a total non event.

He's not doing anything wrong by going on holiday with his girlfriend.

He may want more contact with his son.

No he probably doesn't want them knowing what he's doing. He is entitled to privacy in his relationship.

@Maria1979

YABU to use the word Bimbo.
HTH. 👍

Mind your own business. Also, calling another woman a bimbo is never a good look. If you're going to call anyone names, it's the ex-husband that deserves it, not the woman he's not with.

Oh the irony of OP calling someone else a bimbo while using alot (sic) instead of a lot 😂

Wind your neck in

Don't be a knob OP. You lost all moral highground when you started calling out his seemingly innocent partner on her brains, looks and age despite that having sweet FA to do with your outrage.

Nice bit of misogyny there re your attitude to his new partner. The reality is you have no idea how clever she is. Of course he can have a holiday without his child. You’re being far too invested and you sound a bit jealous.

I don't know what other people are apparently telling you on other threads, that's between you and them.

A parent who sees their kids 4 days a month is a lazy parent. One who does that and then whinges about how much money he pays in child maintenance is a shittier one. One who does both those and then goes on holiday to Disneyland without his child is worse.

I don't know why I'm bothering. There will always be women lining up to defend shit men.

Every other weekend is the most common contact arrangement and there may be good reasons for it. People are always saying kids need a stable home and a base and that most adults wouldn’t like it if they lived between two places so why should kids?
It’s not shit to go on holiday without your child on days when they are not with you. You’d never say it to a mum going on holiday with her boyfriend while kids are with dad.
He moans about paying - so he does pay. He’s a hell of a lot better than the many who don’t pay. Who knows why he moans? Maybe he knows the mum doesn’t spend the money on the kids.

Agreed.

Yes, the ex husband's appearance and intellect isn't called into question is it? No offensive term for him.

But why hold a man accountable when you can pile on another woman.

Is that not what OP has done with this thread by inserting irrelevant insults about the new girlfriends appearance and intellect?

That's exactly what she's done.

Nine fucking pages of people kicking off that OP called some random person that nobody knows a bimbo. but no shits given about the poor kid that isn't going to Disney with his dad, that he only gets to see twice a month, because he would rather go with his new girlfriend.

Heh.

I wouldn’t even let my son go with the dad and his gf at that age. He wouldn’t even have a sibling to keep him company, just a part time dad with his girlfriend. Would any child really even want that holiday arrangement, I know mine would have been begging me not to go.

@MissUltraViolet my daddy didn't take me to Disney either...... But did buy a new tent take his "lady friend" camping . Haven't seen him in ten years

If that’s what you took away from it, you haven’t understood the thread properly.