Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

Tbf I think it would be your attitude , not your outfit ( that's easily changed)

I'm attacking her clothes🤣 I think she deserves better than the selfish prick she's with.

To continue from Wikipedia...

The term died out again for much of the 20th century until it became popular again in the 1980s and 1990s, with political sex scandals. As bimbo began to be used increasingly for females, exclusively male variations of the word began to surface, like mimbo and himbo, a backformation of bimbo, which refers to an unintelligent, but attractive, man.

I think you need to accept that you've scored a massive own goal here @Maria1979 . If I were you I would be tempted to delete this and repost with no misogynistic language, if anything as a social experiment to see what different responses you get (and I think they will be different).

Do better.

Well if my attitude helps me not getting invited to Disneyland 😁

Why, he’s obviously good to her? It is really that you think it’s unfair he’s left your friend and ended up with an attractive, younger person? You seem to have a massive issue with her, not that you think she can do better.

I wouldn't invite you anywhere you sound awful imo

You sound lovely.

I'm sorry, with the way you talk about people I wouldn't trust you judgment on someone. I'm thinking this man probably isn't that bad at all. As a side note, I'm a very busty woman who is generally cheerful and laughing. I've dealt with other women treating me like shit for it ever sense I hit puberty. I would much rather be a nice "bimbo" then a nasty mean girl.

That may be the origin, but as I pointed out it’s also been assigned as the name of a toy in the late 1960’s, which has just as little to do with the roots of the word as does using it as a derogatory and insulting description of a woman.

I told you up thread, I'm adorable did you miss that?

This was my take on it too. The ex husband is complaining that his ex is ruining him financially, so it sounds as though he’s paying at least what is reasonable and yet his ex complains to OP that he’s not paying enough. Both can’t be true.

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The dad is the issue. He is describes as man, ex or dad.

The girlfriend may be blonde, giggly, wear babydoll dresses but that isnt harming anyone or anything to do with dad not taking son to disney.

Yabu to call anyone derogatory names based on their looks/perceived intelligence. Call him all the names due to his actions!

• Not your circus, not your monkeys. I could understand if you were speaking/ acting on behalf of a close friend but you're not. You have no idea what the real, objective situation is.

• The debate about how you refer to another woman has been had, I won't re-tread it, but agree with others that I don't like your terminology, nor your judgement of her.

• I actually do quite frequently hear about absent fathers who pay minimum, do very little parenting (ironically 'Disney' dads) and complain bitterly about how they're being fleeced by their uncaring, high maintenance exes. So I am more inclined to believe the ex's account of said man, particularly if custody is not shared 50/50. *Disclaimer - of course I know that there are some exceptions to this.

• I too am highly suspicious/ judgemental about adults visiting Disney without dc accompanying them. I have nothing to base this judgement on, other than my own experience is that the adults I've known who have done this are stuck in a kind of childhood/ adulthood limbo, slightly over-excitable and lacking in responsibility, either for their own actions, or the care of others. Apologies though to those adults who don't replicate my own experience. I am prepared to understand that I am wrong, and judgemental.

But op, while I can see some of your points, I come back to point 1 above. It's really none of your business.

This happened to me. I was about 13 at the time. I knew about it and was totally gutted.
When I became a parent I realised how utterly selfish my mother had been. I couldn't imagine going without my child.
She also did lots of selfish things though. As a result we are low contact.

Parents dont need to be tied to their kids.
its great fun to do things on your own without kids.

No-one uses the word "bimbo" any more and it pulls down the tone of the whole thread.

You lost all credibility at bimbo.

DH and I once went on Space Mountain four times in a row. It was great! I’d do it again.

It’s fucking weird two adults going to Disneyland without children.

Why? Loads of adults go to Disney without children , not somewhere I want to go but plenty do .

It’s actually really common. People can do what they want, and some people have different interests.

I've been to Disney twice as a childless adult. I'm not the biggest Disney fan but I love rollercoasters. (Universal is a lot better for adults.)I'm more baffled by people taking babies to Disney world. It's generally hot and muggy, with nothing for a small child to do. Doesn't sound like somewhere an infant would like to be.

It’s fucking weird going to an AI in Spain, drinking all you can and eating chips by the pool together with other Brits. Now that is a true nightmare. Even for the Spanish people.