Being sensitive when friends don't reply to messages (having seen them)

[Anuta77]

Just to be clear I know that everyone is busy and are not obliged to immediately reply to my messages. I totally get not feeling like replying at the moment and even forgetting. It happens to me. But even if I forget, I end up remembering the unanswered message and reply something saying sorry, got busy, .... I also think that if one forgets the message, if they somehow think of you one day, they would open the messaging app and would see that they never answered something.

If I have nothing else to contribute to the conversation or someone sends some info that doesn't require a full answer, I at least acknoledge with some thumbs up or a heart or whatever.

By the way, I am very busy myself by the way, with kids, work, renovations, etc. I just think it's the polite thing to do.

So when friends just see my message and then never reply, it bugs me, especially when it happens several times. I obviously don't throw a tantrum or say anything, but it turns me off and makes me less motivated to start a conversation again. The worse is that it happens even with my close friend who's strong on manners.

I even changed hairdressers after I sent one hairdresser some info we discussed during the haircut and told her how my husband loved my hair. She ignored my message (she's very active on facebook and I could see that the message was seen), I found another hairdresser.

AIBU? How others react to their messages being ignored?

This is exactly what I mean. I'm comms fatigued. Many times I Don't want to hear anymore anything from anyone except my kids when I get back home. Even when my best friend sends messages I don't bloody have energy. But they understand me and when they do the same I don't get offended. That's why she's my bestie.

Goodness me what a martyrish post. So by your reckoning everyone has to think and behave exactly like you?

No, not at all. The whole point of my post was that I understand her feelings but pointing out that were all different!

I've been reflecting on this. I guess at the ripe age of 37 I have come to the realisation that I want people keep in touch with me, respond, acknowledge my messages, do heart reactions etc, because they WANT to rather than because "it's nice" or "it's polite" or "it's the right thing to do" or whatever. And vice versa.

Yes, we are entitled to our feelings
And you have come on here asking our opinion on your feelings regarding your need for instantaneous gratification on your social media
Sadly, you don't like the responses that don't share your feelings or suggest that they may be a little....OTT...
Out of interest, do you have a job? If so, what do you do when a colleague or client doesn't send you a heart or thumbs up immediately?

So this is why messaging apps are social media, it’s the completely illogical need for a reply to every little thought or observation.

There have been several threads recently where posters expect messages throughout the day from their other halves. Back in the day, when one had to pick up the landline in the office, one would have been seen to be unprofessional/doing stuff on company time etc. Have times really changed that much? I suspect in work rules actually haven’t and some people do seem to think connecting via messaging throughout the day is healthy when actually if our kids were doing it we’d limit screen time.