To not go on this holiday

[Ickityick]

Booked and paid for a winter break a long time ago.

Person I'm going with has been hugely irritating me the last few months with their general tightness and CFness.

We are sharing a room.

Should I go or write it off!

"I'm sorry you feel that way" means "Fuck off".

It's not an apology.

No, you're completely wrong.

It absolutely doesn't mean what you think it means. Have you been using this phrase as an apology?

After everything else she’s done you still trust her? You’ve told her you’re on to her, she won’t like that. It may well make her worse. You’re taking a big risk with this. Of the booking is in your name you’ll be responsible for the bill. At the very least you need to contact the hotel and make sure she can’t do this.

Thanks everyone, it's been a lot to think about and I have been swinging one way and the other for the last 2 days.

In the end the complete lack of apology means I have decided not to go, my annual leave is too precious to be on edge and locking my belongings away every day.

I have cancelled my flight and got my air passenger tax back, that's a 100 quid nearly and she is on the booking solo now.

Life is too short to put up with someone completely disrespecting me!

Stuck in a hotel room with her for 10 nights would be hell for me as I am so resentful now, and it's throwing good money after bad to go!

Are you tempted not to let her know you are not going? I guess however she may do the same!

I hope your 'friend' doesn't do the same thing

I've sent her a message saying I'm not going!

Sorry you've missed out, I hope you enjoy your time off anyway.

Aww sorry it came to this, but it sounds as if you've made the right decision.
The thought of locking your toiletries up and policing her every move, not eating together and then sharing a room is bonkers !.
Have a lovely time whatever you do.

Wise move op
Enjoy your two weeks off and treat yourself.

Nice one, OP. Enjoy your time off. X

I think you did the right thing. use the money you got back and the spending money you had saved on a nice spa day ir dinner ir whatever you want and you Will enjoy it more

I think it's a sensible decision. 10 days is a long time to spend with someone where you feel you have to be constantly on alert, for their next incursion into your stuff!

She probably won't go herself now – her lack of apology suggests she thinks you are overreacting and once you were actually on the holiday, her usual freeloading could resume. Now she knows her benefactor has pulled out, I bet she cannot afford it alone – she probably priced her share of the holiday based on what you'd pay for! That doesn't mean you haven't done the right thing pulling out, I'd have done the same. Ten days seething on a sun lounger because of the CF you are with is no holiday.

@Ickityick make sure you let the hotel know YOURE not going so Princess CheekyFuckerella doesn't claim she's you and clock up spends on your booking!!

What did she say?

Nothing! Haven't heard anything since I gave her examples of her taking me for a fool financially !

That’s hard but probably the right decision. I hope you have a lovely time on your week off. The lost money on the holiday is maybe worth the price of getting her out of your life permanently.

I think you’ve probably made the right decision, frustrating as it is to lose the initial money paid it would be miserable to go with her. That said, if she was expecting you to fund her once out there and there is any chance she may now decide not to go now that obviously won’t happen I wouldn’t cancel anything yet; it would be annoying for her to cancel and for you to be in a position you can’t go alone either. Wait and officially cancel at the last minute.

How does this work (not that you should care, I'm just curious!), if she goes alone? Would she have to pay a single supplement? Would the hotel care I wonder?

I bet she will try and claim something through her travel insurance, although reading about her, I doubt she even bothered with that essential item either!

OP you made the correct decision IMV. Now go and have a pamper day or do something lovely for yourself with the spending money you have saved + the air tax refund.

I think you've done the right thing. Far better to have a relaxing week in the cold than a desperately uncomfortable week in the sunshine!

I think she will still go - after all she has paid £600 of her own money !

Good decision.
Simply good money after bad.
Have a lovely relaxing break at home.
Personally I simply wouldn't have turned up.
She doesn't deserve the courtesy of knowing.

I don’t know you but I’m so ridiculously pleased you’re not going!
Try not to think about the “ lost” money and enjoy your uk break from work
I “ lost” much more than that in different circumstances last year ( new health issues and couldn’t get flights to visit 2 overseas children changed or refunded on the insurance so had to write them off) and although I was upset and disappointed, the relief of not having the constant worry that I’d be ill overseas was overwhelming.
There will be another nice holiday for you enjoy another time.

Is she bipolar? I had two different friends like this and both were. I wondered if it might be a symptom as it was so similar in the two cases. Even down to both of them taking me out for dinner in my birthday as their treat then ordering cocktails and desserts etc while I just had a main course or in one case just a slice of cake - then pulling the “thanks, I’ll pay next time as I plan on treating you for your birthday.” Card. Neither had the money to pay with them and we were lucky I had my birthday money each time or we would have been unable to pay!