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To not go on this holiday

235 replies

Ickityick · 21/11/2024 20:23

Booked and paid for a winter break a long time ago.

Person I'm going with has been hugely irritating me the last few months with their general tightness and CFness.

We are sharing a room.

Should I go or write it off!

OP posts:
Runskiyoga · 24/11/2024 15:46

You've done the right thing. It's not money wasted, it's money that was gone anyway that has helped you move forward.

TheChosenTwo · 24/11/2024 15:57

I’m really glad you’ve come to this decision op. I know it can rankle to think of the money gone but it would have cost you a lot more in more money, stress and worry while you were there.
It really would have been throwing good money after bad.
Chalk it up as a lesson learned and reclaim your annual leave for another time. Or keep it as is and just relax and enjoy the time off.
CFers will never learn if we keep going along with them.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/11/2024 16:16

Good for you for coming to a decision you are happy with. Worth it for the peace of mind this will bring and putting the situation behind you.

And poo to her for not even having the courtesy to reply, to either of your texts.

Hope you enjoy your time off without being on tenterhooks about someone else's crap behaviour.

hailu · 24/11/2024 18:26

The 600 quid is worth it to get her out of your life permanently.
Enjoy your holiday at home.

AmIEnough · 28/11/2024 08:07

Yes it is super bad! We haven't actually spoken in a few months now after one spectacular incident of CFness !!

if you actually had an argument over this incident, perhaps it would be prudent to message her just to say given the situation do you think it might be better if we took a rain check on this holiday and see what happens? I think if you go, you are already predisposed to look out for things that irritate you and I think you’ll find it irritating and will make matters worse for you. I would be inclined to cancel.

AmIEnough · 28/11/2024 08:10

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 21/11/2024 21:36

Rather than cancel the holiday, you might send her a message acknowledging that things haven't been great between you recently and checking that still wants to come. Then you could say something like : 'It is easy even for old friends to fall out over money, so lets have a clear agreement from the beginning that each of us will pay for ourselves, every time - no buying rounds or treats. We'll eat together if we can find a venue that suits both of us, but otherwise do our thing. Whatever happens, it will be lovely to get away and have a break.' And don't take any extra-special clothes or accessories with you in case she asks to borrow them; take the minimum and say Sorry you need everything you brought with you, so you can't lend anything out.

Edited

This!!

AmIEnough · 28/11/2024 08:28

I’d love to know if she responds! I wonder if she will still go now? Now she knows her Cashcow isn’t joining her!

MinnieGirl · 30/11/2024 07:54

Have you heard anything from your CF friend? Or hopefully ex friend!
When is she due to go on holiday?
Please do update us with any news!

Dimpliy · 30/11/2024 08:17

I hope OP doesn't tell C F that she's not going and the C F looks for OP at the airport and hotel and comes unprepared for the.holiday.

Goodtogossip · 10/12/2024 14:58

Is there a chance the other person may pull out & not go? If that's the case would you go on your own? If they do go I'd still go but do my own thing once I'm there.

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