To not go on this holiday

[Ickityick]

Booked and paid for a winter break a long time ago.

Person I'm going with has been hugely irritating me the last few months with their general tightness and CFness.

We are sharing a room.

Should I go or write it off!

Where are you off to OP? We might be able to give you tips on nice solo places you can go.

Please go and put daily updates on here just because I'm so concerned about it all and obviously not for my own entertainment whatsoever 🙃

OP usually you can change the name on the booking for quite a minimal cost. Is there somebody else who might be available to come with you instead and buy her out of her share of the trip, especially if it was a bargain price as you said?

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Well I emailed her and said I wouldn't be paying for her, etc etc bring your own stuff.

She has just replied and said I am.sorry you feel like that.

Now I'm absolutely raging at her , plainly takes no responsibility

Sweet lord thats shocking 😱 - Can you dump her and bring someone else ?

What?! Not even the pretence that she's not a freeloader?!

Not really as it would buying her out, then paying for a flight change name fee etc

Typical CF response.
However, she's been told. So once you get there stick to what you have said and just do your own thing.
Or do you think she might pull out now and demand you pay her her half back?

Nope, I was so enraged that I sent her 7 specific examples and said I was tired of her freeloading off me, she hasn't replied to that

Make triple sure the hotel doesn't have your cc info on file so she can't charge to the room! If they require one make her use hers hard stare

I would write this off. The tension of travelling together and sharing a room is going to be insane.

If you really want to make a go of it can you meet up in advance and discuss this properly and try to reach an amicable arrangement? You don’t need to give in to her but now you have shamed her and she’s likely to be really unpleasant unless the whole thing is given a good airing.

Will you actually have a nice time if you do your own thing but still have to sleep in the same room as her? As you don't like her anymore and she sent such a ridiculous reply to your email, I think I'd be cancelling and telling her she can either go alone or find someone to take my place. It would be really annoying to lose the money, but it's spent either way and I'd actually have a better time chilling at home!

OP,
The emails show that you would be going on holiday with a bitch.
Cut your losses and don't go.

I think you are taking all relevant precautions OP, you're not going to put yourself in a situation where she can freeload off you which is good.

Stick to your guns, lock all your stuff away (toiletries, clothes, books, sunscreen), many people live out of their suitcase when away in holiday so it won't be hard.

Literally take a padlock to lock your suitcase and to lock your toiletries bag when you're not using it.

Agree that you shouldn't go out to dine with her, if you do then make sure the wait staff knows it's separate bills and no sharing ANYTHING.

Don't let yourself get frustrated by her reply to you, she doesn't give a flying ffff and is hoping you'll relent on holiday to avoid awkwardness- don't feel awkward, you're not the problem here!

Good luck and please update us when you're back (when are you back by the way so I know when to come back)!!!!

Defo take a suitcase with a lock on it.

She sounds like a bloody nightmare!

I'm so angry now that I refuse to let her have the holiday to herself, I am going !

Completely livid at her response actually, noted that no response to the 7 examples of complete CF I sent her.

You’re raging that she apologised? I’m confused.

It's not a proper apology though is it; it's what people say when they feel like they have to apologise but don't actually think they have done anything wrong. It's so condescending

Bloody hell OP, definitely figure out that lock on your case.

I would honestly think long and hard about going.
I would be so tempted to simply not turn up.

If you do go, speak to reception privately and ask them if any room on your own becomes available cheaply, you would be very interested.

Bring plenty of books and do your own thing.

Is it a week?

"Sorry you feel that way" etc.....is not an apology.

Its CF speak.

I would also tell reception not to accept any requests to be charged against your room, and make it clear to the C.F. that you will not pay for anything she charges to the room.

It’s just saying she doesn’t agree with her, she can’t make her friend agree with what she’s saying. Seems a bit much to be raging that her friend has a different POV and now OP has lost her temper and probably not come across to well in her next email?

Tell her you've totted it up and the cost of what she's had out of you over the years = the cost of the holiday. Therefore as lead booker you are changing the second passenger to a friend who doesn't treat you like a barclaycard.

I'm so angry now that I refuse to let her have the holiday to herself, I am going !

Love this attitude OP 😅💪🏻