I have been seeing someone for a month he keeps telling me that he loves me & I don’t know how to tell him to take it a bit slower?

[SharpSnake]

• I have been dating someone for around a month now. We have met on two occasions. The first first was just a brief date over a drink or two.

• We ended up meeting each other over the weekend, he invited me over to his place. I came on the Friday left on the Sunday.

• We literally spent the time talking and getting to know each other more, the conversation was flowing non stop no awkward breaks or anything like that inbetween.

• I think we have both had around 4 hours sleep over the past 2 days . We spent the time together just talking and have sex, when we was just lead in bed cuddling he telling me he loves me he mentioned this several times but I just let it blow over. He was also saying I’m full of him and he wants me to have his baby’s.

• Every time he finished he told me that he is going to get me pregnant. I am no where ready for a child but he has said that multiple times to me now that he wants a baby and our own family together. What can I say to him please? I do really like him but I don’t want to rush into things, I have briefly mentioned this to him but I don’t think he acknowledges this.

( I am on contraception)

This. And to add to that your phone battery was dead and you had unsafe sex with someone you barely know. I would be beside myself with concern if you were my daughter.

Run for the hills.............

Jesus Christ OP. How on earth are you even entertaining this? It’s absolute madness. He is ff his rocker and sounds frankly, dangerous.

Op, a proper compliment, the only compliment really, is an honest one.

You know objectively that he doesn't love you, but you like the sound of it.

If you feel good when someone says things like this, which can't possibly be honest, it suggests you have very very low self esteem and will hang on to any 'compliment' or false compliment.

That is really dangerous territory and makes you very vulnerable to abusers.

They only have to say a few meaningless words which you will hang on to.

Please please get some help, if you can't fund it, spend some time alone, you must learn to not fall for this shit.

In such a short space of time he’s thrown every kind of red flag right in your face and you’re still entertaining staying in touch?!

If this is real (which I’m wondering since the updates got more and more concerning) then please just remove yourself from this situation and maybe look into some sort of support? This can’t be the bar by which you have relationships with guys.

Ridiculous.

You've met this guy twice in a month and you are already letting him "breed you" and he is declaring his love after 2 "dates"

Seriously why would you need to post on here to know this is not normal and you should have nothing further to do with him.

RUN

Ugh Just no
He sounds delusional
Get rid

Every time he finished he told me that he is going to get me pregnant.

🤮

Jesus OP. If I was in your shoes, you wouldn’t be able to waterboard me into spending another minute with him 🤮

He sounds like the kind of guy who'd make a coat out of your skin, and keep the rest of you in the freezer so he can tell you daily that he loves you and that you'll be his forever.

He is a VERY damaged person and you are not his recovery, his therapy or his rehabilitation. Please open your eyes to the fucking massive red flags he's waving in your face.

Hairy Hands brigade .. look for a few kicks by starting a thread about their breeding kink

Maybe racism?
This is very common dysfunctional man behaviour. There is no particular culture that this is seen within. Dysfunctional man behaviour transcends culture.

I’d be very wary, he sounds unstable and rather desperate. I don’t see it ending well & would be calling it off . Sadly I don’t think he’ll go quietly

EW. I'm sorry but no, ew. Mind you, my fiance told me he loved me after about a month, but I felt pretty much the same way and our relationship (after 8 years has always been amazing). Still though, too much too soon and the fact that you're posting about it speaks volumes.

Who says it's poor form to dump by text? It's perfectly normal and expected in 2024 especially when it's just dating and not a committed relationship

100%

I'm probably not seeing this too objectively because I've a history of abuse trauma and tend to be very wary of men and relationships, but this has red flags all over it.

Either he is into you which is sweet but if your feelings aren't as intense, he's going to feel suffocating.

Or he is love bombing you. If so, run and don't look back.

I think it's poor form to dump someone who's obviously into you by text - I'd say at least video call but if not, a quick face to face chat

Either way, it might be the best option here, op needs to keep herself safe

This isn’t one to take slower. It’s one to take no further.

But, note for the future, you also have the option of taking things slower from the get go.

Really, really, really weird. Get out. Block.
If you continue with him, knowing what you do about him and his family, you are just as f-ed up and the only thing you should expect is drama and possibly abuse (since he comes from it he may repeat it).
You owe nothing. Run.

I'm not sure if you've been on the dating scene in the past decade or so but these days people rarely talk on the phone while dating and most communication is done over messaging. So video calling to break up with someone would usually be experienced as deeply uncomfortable!

A relationship with him would be exhausting

Both of you sound nuts.

Go and get yourself the morning after pill and a full std test and block him.