I have been seeing someone for a month he keeps telling me that he loves me & I don’t know how to tell him to take it a bit slower?

[SharpSnake]

• I have been dating someone for around a month now. We have met on two occasions. The first first was just a brief date over a drink or two.

• We ended up meeting each other over the weekend, he invited me over to his place. I came on the Friday left on the Sunday.

• We literally spent the time talking and getting to know each other more, the conversation was flowing non stop no awkward breaks or anything like that inbetween.

• I think we have both had around 4 hours sleep over the past 2 days . We spent the time together just talking and have sex, when we was just lead in bed cuddling he telling me he loves me he mentioned this several times but I just let it blow over. He was also saying I’m full of him and he wants me to have his baby’s.

• Every time he finished he told me that he is going to get me pregnant. I am no where ready for a child but he has said that multiple times to me now that he wants a baby and our own family together. What can I say to him please? I do really like him but I don’t want to rush into things, I have briefly mentioned this to him but I don’t think he acknowledges this.

( I am on contraception)

Please extract yourself from this situation as soon as possible. He sounds unhinged and dangerous.

So he has said to me that he is infertile

Nope. This is a trap to get you to stop using contraception so he can fulfil his breeding/pregnancy fetish/kink. Don't trust anything he says.

Honestly, reread what everyone has said. Please end this!!
This guy is dodgier than the love child of Danny Dyer and a used car salesman.

RUN !!!

as fast as you can !!!

@Dontbeme is absolutely spot on!!

Creep alert

Since you don’t seem to realise just how alarming and abnormal his behaviour is I would strongly recommend some therapy aimed at helping you to set boundaries and recognise these behaviours.

After you end the relationship.

Op there is a lot of good, motherly advice from posters, at least some of whom, will have been around this block. He is not a man I would encourage my daughter to have a relationship with. He may be vulnerable but also manipulative, with poor boundaries and an inability to respect yours. Please extricate yourself from this situation and find a decent man who has his shit together. Who understand that relationship are built up over time, to develop trust and truly discover if this is the person for you. You do not need to find a man to "save". I've no doubt this is not his first rodeo, trotting out all this poor me stuff, to make women feel sorry for him and sleep with him. Please get out of this.

Full of him??

Are you honestly having unprotected sex with walking ick who you just met?

Please just do not engage with this guy, he is honestly a walking red flag.
Expect better!

All of this. he's not even very good at it.

100% this. Further to my previous post this is what my ex-h did. Lots of tragic tales. He did have a shit childhood, nobody is denying that and his parents were dreadful. However, I now think a lot of it was to suck me in. Honestly OP, please listen to us who have been with men like this. Get rid of this one. It's not worth it.

Gently op, you don't owe this man anything, not even an explanation.

You should block him today. Now. Just do it.

Then take some time to think about what has happened over the last month. You've met a total stranger who has utterly love-bombed you, persuaded you into unprotected sex putting your health at risk, probably lied to you about his fertility and family circumstances.

Even if he was the most amazing man on the planet I'd be wary of his family - that alone would have me running for the hills.

If you have a child with him you will be tied to him and his crazy family for the rest of your life.

You owe him nothing. Block.

Feeling sorry for him is not a good basis for a relationship. You know there is something about him that is not right or you wouldn't be posting here with your concerns. You've met him twice and you are not responsible putting up with this behaviour because he has issues. His problems are not your problems. You're worried he knows where you live yet you're considering continuing this? That makes no sense to me.

It is absolutely shocking op that you didn't see this as an immediate red flag and block him immediately. Really really concerning. What is your history like that you can't see him for the horror that he is?

If someone said that to me, I'd reply "well you barely know me yet, so how can you know if you love me? All you love right now is an imaginary person you've built up in your mind"

OP, in the kindest possible way, I wondered if this thread was a wind-up because it is SO BLINDINGLY OBVIOUS that his behaviour is manipulative and abusive. Please, please have the self-respect to walk away from this shit-show before it escalates (which it will).

Also, if you’re sleeping with men you barely know without protection, it sounds like you have serious self-esteem issues, which you must address before getting involved in a relationship with anyone. You deserve so much more than this!

100%, it's poor form to 'dump by text but this might be the safest way to do it xx

Bin

He was also saying I’m full of him and he wants me to have his baby’s.

What on earth? Ugh I would have left immediately.

Huge red flag. This relationship isn't going to end well if you continue it. He is love bombing you

Lovebombing. Get rid of him.

Too much too soon.

Op, you acted in such an unsafe way. You had only met him briefly then went to his home when both of you had been drinking. You didn't leave as soon as he turned weird. You really need to look at whether any of this was a good idea. We can see he's unhinged but you clearly don't see how bad it is. You need much higher boundaries.

Explain please?

I rarely become so concerned about posters on here or anywhere else. This raises more than just red flags. I have heard ,in a professional capacity ,men who have been brought to justice for sexual offences use similar terminology. Often whilst attempting to subvert or ingratiate themselves with staff. If you were my friend/ relative/ colleague who had told me this IRL I would be seriously concerned.

Please, if you don't value your own safety ,imagine a friend telling you this had happened to them. What should they do? Would you worry about them? Take on board the excellent advice you have been given on here. He does not like you ,or love you. He does not see you as a wonderful person who will save him. He sees himself and his own needs . Sorry ,not meaning to upset you but this will not end well as pp have said.

This is the kind of relationship that mothers warn their daughters about. It has the vibes of a true crime Netflix story.

Please get some distance from this guy asap and consider what has caused you to be putting yourself in dangerous situations.