I have been seeing someone for a month he keeps telling me that he loves me & I don’t know how to tell him to take it a bit slower?

[SharpSnake]

• I have been dating someone for around a month now. We have met on two occasions. The first first was just a brief date over a drink or two.

• We ended up meeting each other over the weekend, he invited me over to his place. I came on the Friday left on the Sunday.

• We literally spent the time talking and getting to know each other more, the conversation was flowing non stop no awkward breaks or anything like that inbetween.

• I think we have both had around 4 hours sleep over the past 2 days . We spent the time together just talking and have sex, when we was just lead in bed cuddling he telling me he loves me he mentioned this several times but I just let it blow over. He was also saying I’m full of him and he wants me to have his baby’s.

• Every time he finished he told me that he is going to get me pregnant. I am no where ready for a child but he has said that multiple times to me now that he wants a baby and our own family together. What can I say to him please? I do really like him but I don’t want to rush into things, I have briefly mentioned this to him but I don’t think he acknowledges this.

( I am on contraception)

He was also saying I’m full of him and he wants me to have his baby’s.

UGH. He sounds like he has a breeding kink. Seriously. Some men get off on thinking their sperm is so powerful. You need to ditch this puke-inducer and RUN!

Yes, and tell me you used a condom, OP? In which case, you’re not in fact full of his super-strength sperm at all.

This would make my vagina close over.

There's no way I'd be giving this man any more of my time. He sounds insincere and gross.

Kindly OP

throw him back, get an STI check and really consider whether you made a safe decision going to someone’s home who you’ve only met once. You sound very vulnerable and I am worried you could get yourself into very risky situations- I say this as someone who has done this so please don’t think k I’m judging you.

Please end it. And fgs make sure contraception is definitely bullet proof.

Agree he's lovebombing and very probably a breeding kink. Does he already have DC? You cant be the first he's tried this line with!

He sounds bonkers. End it.

He doesn't love you, he's barely starting getting to know you! This is way too much too quickly and you should be running for the hills!

You only met him a month ago and you aren’t using condoms?

Red flag OP. Sounds like 'love bombing' to me.

The trying to get you pregnant when you've only been on two dates is, quite frankly, really worrying too and quite possibly the actions of a scary and controlling man.

Exactly this ugh. I was going to cave and have some breakfast but I can skip it after reading that.

Ewww, run.

RED FLAG ALERT

Throw this one back, he is a loon!

Ew, he is a controlling weirdo OP. Throw him back!

Oh god no

Love bombing you. Once you are trapped with a pregnancy his behaviour will likely change. Even if he stays gushing love it's not healthy this soon and even if he felt it a rational person would hold those comments in for longer than a date and a weekend together.

Run

BLOCK!!!

RUN from this absolute weirdo immediately.

Very glad I don't need to bother with men anymore.
(45 yo, long term married).
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Omg op. If I’m reading this right you’ve only been dating this guy for ONE month, you have met twice in the space of that month, he is telling you he loves you after only the 2nd meet (and after only ONE month in), invited you over to his place for a SECOND DATE to spend a full weekend at his (jeez you’ve only met the guy briefly once) and let me guess - he wanted you over at his for a sex fest because he has no intentions of wining and dining you. You both had sex with only 4 hours sleep in between and now he’s telling you he wants to get you pregnant? Do your research on narcissistic dating op, all abusers start off by wanting to rush into a relationship, have kids, buy a house and say the L word from the get go! Run while you have the chance!

Oh God. Yuck. Run. Seriously.

All the red flags

Yep, agree with everyone else on the thread. This chap's a wrong 'un. Bin him off asap. (based on my own very similar experiences, the mask will slip soon)

He's love bombing you. My guess is that he's actually an abusive twat that will turn the second you ever did get pregnant. If not he's a least got some deep issues.

This is disgusting. I assume you’re
not using condoms? This is often how so many women fall pregnant while using contraceptive and seem all confused - they’re not doubling up.

This man is making all these grand proclamations of love super early, and having unprotected sex so it’s likely this is his MO with every woman he meet. I’d definitely be getting myself tested asap.

Aside from the STD risks, he is lovebombing you and being massively selfish and irresponsible. It’s easy enough for men to get a woman pregnant but you’re the one left carrying the baby in more ways than one.

Why on earth do some men just assume women are desperate to carry any man’s baby without even attempting to prove to the woman they are are going to be a great father and partner? Sadly the answer is probably because some women with low self esteem do fall for it and feel flattered.