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DP received letter for CMS

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lockdownbabyx · 15/11/2024 15:42

My partner and I have been together for 4 years and have 2 children and another on the way.
Today he received a letter from CMS saying he owes child maintenance for a child he has never known about. This child is now 5 years old.

Obviously a dna test will need to be done anyway, but where do we stand with this?

I'm so upset and confused, literally found out I was pregnant again yesterday 😭

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Wolframandhart · 18/11/2024 07:09

mortlurf · 17/11/2024 14:59

@Wolframandhart the OP has posted 4 times on this thread. Not once has she said her children are all under 3. Oh course they probably are due to the timeline but she's not said it on this, her current thread. Which is quite clear that poster you're attempting to argue with is referring to. I'd suggest holding back on calling other posters 'fixated' on this when point when you're the one doing advanced searches on the OP's posting history.

People don't have conversations in isolation.

SoporificLettuce · 18/11/2024 07:14

If he chooses to contest the claim and wants a DNA test he will have to pay for it. If the child is proven not to be his the cost will be refunded.

If the child is his then your husband’s income and outgoings will be assessed and he will have to pay an appropriate amount to support his child.

SoporificLettuce · 18/11/2024 07:20

notbelieved · 15/11/2024 16:07

is the CMS asking for back pay or just maintenance going forward?

if there's back pay, that would suggest a case has been open for sometime and therefore he is aware that there is a child out there an ex is claiming is his.

If it's just maintenance going forward, then he absolutely must deny that he is the father - this is the only way to get the DNA test. He will have to pay for the test but obviously, if the child's not his, it's money well spent.

He will need to pay the appropriate amount going forwards if he is the father. Whether you can afford it or not.

If the DNA test proves he is not the father the cost of the test will be refunded.

Blondeshavemorefun · 18/11/2024 11:07

Has dp done a dna test op?

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