DH and toilet habits

[Baabaasheeps]

Every morning my DH sets an alarm for 6am as he has an hour commute to work.

He often gets up then but will spend up to an hour on the toilet. I’m pretty sure he’s watching videos or reading nonsense in there.

Then he will start getting ready etc meaning he doesn’t get into work until late, this means he works late and never gets home before 8pm. We have a baby and a toddler and he’s never back for bedtime and also never helps in the morning as he’s on the toilet!

AIBU to tell him a few home truths? He’s always complaining he is late for work and ‘doesn’t know where the morning goes’.

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Sounds like he isn’t happy at home, find out wot the issue is.

@Baabaasheeps my sil has a similar job and as they have a 6 month dc who likes an earlier start, after helping dd1 with the baby - changing nappy, dressing- he gets to work early. This means he can leave early and come home to spend time with dc and dd1. I'm pretty sure dd1 would give him pretty short shrift if he behaved like your dh!

This issue is that he doesn’t give a shit about his wife and children, because he believes it’s the woman’s role to everything. He doesn’t need any kind of sympathy