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Boyfriends kink

515 replies

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 22:27

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

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middler · 10/11/2024 19:48
Happy Donald Trump GIF by Team Trump

Is it ....through a hole in the flag, in a Vance wig on him, you as Trump in a white puritan little house on the prairie nightie with a michael landon look alike in a MAGA hat directing it all , maybe just with fingers finger pumping...on november 5th.Was it a one off request for that day? With Hillbilly Elegy on the bedside table, bookmarked at the end....I would be out still...

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 19:51

The concerning thing is you’re already worried about telling him that you’re not into it. What else are you going to end up doing because you’re worried about ‘upsetting’ him? Just say ah cool not sure that’s for me, but still happy for xyz

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 19:52

Is it being peed on??? It is isn’t it!

StaunchMomma · 10/11/2024 19:53

MumOfOneAllAlone · 10/11/2024 13:41

Omg dressing up as a baby???

We Did It Ghosts GIF by CBS

Miss Marple vibes

Namechangey23 · 10/11/2024 19:54

middler · 10/11/2024 19:48

Is it ....through a hole in the flag, in a Vance wig on him, you as Trump in a white puritan little house on the prairie nightie with a michael landon look alike in a MAGA hat directing it all , maybe just with fingers finger pumping...on november 5th.Was it a one off request for that day? With Hillbilly Elegy on the bedside table, bookmarked at the end....I would be out still...

Haha love it. @middler Stormy Daniels should have been paid compensation for the PTSD, never mind hush money!

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 19:59

You said most people guessed the role play correctly. Please tell us 😂

Jack80 · 10/11/2024 19:59

Explain if he keeps mentioning it there won't be an us.

teeteringontheborderline · 10/11/2024 20:06

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 19:59

You said most people guessed the role play correctly. Please tell us 😂

I'd presume AGP?

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 20:07

teeteringontheborderline · 10/11/2024 20:06

I'd presume AGP?

What’s that? Too scared to google.

CustardySergeant · 10/11/2024 20:11

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 20:07

What’s that? Too scared to google.

Autogynephilia.

ShirleySpenther · 10/11/2024 20:14

CustardySergeant · 10/11/2024 20:11

Autogynephilia.

Is that sticking your piece up an exhaust?

NotTerfNorCis · 10/11/2024 20:25

I think the OP said it wasn't AGP.

My money is on 'adult baby'.

SaffronMilkCap · 10/11/2024 20:29
Tease GIF by Shark Week

@Kneebonefuture why are you stubbornly refusing to say?

Spud90 · 10/11/2024 20:36

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:29

I'm far too deep into this thread now to say what it is, from fear of being guilty by association.

It's using diapers and pretending to be a baby right?

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 20:59

Spud90 · 10/11/2024 20:36

It's using diapers and pretending to be a baby right?

If it’s this then this is on the edge of abuse as it is…

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 20:59

CustardySergeant · 10/11/2024 20:11

Autogynephilia.

Well I have no idea what that is either!

stargazerlil · 10/11/2024 21:02

Just tell him there are professionals that can take care of that sort of thing for him. Then leave put it all behind you and find someone who just like it like you do.

newfriend05 · 10/11/2024 21:05

Cross dressing

teeteringontheborderline · 10/11/2024 21:07

Newsenmum · 10/11/2024 20:59

Well I have no idea what that is either!

"Autogynephilia is a term that describes a person's sexual interest in the idea or image of themselves as the opposite sex. It's often used to describe a male's sexual arousal by the thought of being female. The term comes from Greek words that mean "love of oneself as a woman".

Autogynephilia is considered a paraphilia, which is a type of sexual interest. It's also sometimes conceptualized as a sexual orientation."

Scarfitwere · 10/11/2024 21:16

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:07

Absolutely not. Can you image the photos lol

Sorry I'm not being a prick tease. I just can't even talk about what it is. I'd die of embarrassment

Adult baby?

Loub1987 · 10/11/2024 21:22

I am so disturbed by this thread, I’ve had to Google all the suggestions and they are all alarming. I have clearly led a very sheltered life!

Now please @Kneebonefuture, be a good person and clarify what it is!

Lennon80 · 10/11/2024 21:37

Years ago a pervert was a pervert - dressing it up as ‘kink’ and something acceptable had made people think they have to put up with all sorts of filth. Block him he sounds odd as fuck!

Lifeomars · 10/11/2024 22:05

Spud90 · 10/11/2024 20:36

It's using diapers and pretending to be a baby right?

I remember reading an article about this in Marie Claire many years ago and it was mind bending. Each to their own and all that but honestly...

Yoonimum · 10/11/2024 23:57

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:14

I'm not going to lie, its not that but he is into that aswel

Men with kinks/paraphilias usually have more than one. They are often addictive and escalate. A transvestic fetish can escalate into a full trans identity at great cost to partners who never signed up for this - look up 'trans widows'. You really want to run a mile from this bloke.

Palianytsia · 11/11/2024 00:53

From looking at lots of social media, it appears like lots of Russian bots are on this thread, aiming to slag off "The degenerate west"