Boyfriends kink

[Kneebonefuture]

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

Oh ffs, Never heard that one before, it’s cracking me up. Lmao!🤣

So its not furry, its either baby or cock cage!!

OP if it's really the human baby scenario then that is often an indication of much deeper baggage then just a "kink". It usually means the person has experienced serious trauma at some point in their life, usually childhood. It's also an uncomfortable fact that not all trauma survivors break the cycle. Many end up perpetrating the abuse that was inflicted onto them, and by the sound of your description, this man already displays a lot of aggressive and manipulative behaviour.

This is a lot more than indulging a kink or respecting boundaries. This sounds like a very troubled individual with potential to do a lot of harm not just to you but potentially your children or grandchildren if you allow him to stay in your life.

Edit: Wanted to add that the Furry fandom is usually a bit more harmless but people with a fursona or fur kink tend to be neurodivergent. The percentage of ND people in the furry scene is much higher the general population (at least 80%). It's probably related to the neurodivergent experience of being to relate more easily to animals than humans. However just like the baby thing, more serious furries are usually also people who have gone through trauma or abuse and use their fursona to "split" into a different character. It's a coping mechanism of creating a new identity for themselves and also means that person requires a lot of emotional support outside of their 'kink".

Its cycling, isnt it?
Whenever an OP posts a thread about a middle aged partners hobby/interest that is taking over his life and impinging on her time/boundaries/goodwill /their relationship, its always cycling, no matter how much she tries to disguise or anonymise the problem.

After viewing some of the suggestions on here, this is what I am firmly choosing to believe. Its cycling and the photo was of him in lycra, or his new brakes or waterbottle or something.

He wants to spank you! lol. . It’s a very very common kink. For both men and women, believe it or not women love to receive it and dish it out! I got a little in it myself. And I’m very vanilla! TMI. lol.

We're interested in OPs ex friends kink, not yours

Beware all who enter here! 🦁
https://www.avclub.com/the-insane-story-of-a-furry-convention-undone-by-its-de-1798264086
Archive version of the above - archive.ph/CRgVY
Youtube link from the article -

OP has described it as being an “out there” sexual kink. Riding around on a bicycle, whilst wearing dedicated sportswear, can hardly be described as such. Why is MN so anti-cyclist?

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Explains him being ashamed too 🤣

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Lmao, you’ve got everyone trying to guess his kink. Including me. It’s hilarious. I don’t think you’re that shy using the word pricktease. I could never use that word on a girl. It’s a terrible thing to call a girl/woman. He wants to spank you doesn’t he?

Based on all the hints OP has dropped I’m pretty sure he wants to dress up as a female baby and wear a diaper. 🤮

Well excuse me for breathing! Obviously I’ve touched a nerve!!!

Is it the baby thing? It would take over your life and he would keep demanding further compliance. Grim and sad.

I met someone about twelve years ago.
He was gorgeous, and l knew from his social media that he was into cross dressing. To be honest, he did look good as his alter ego, he told me that he'd actually been in pubs with a group of female friends, some of his football mates had been at the bar next to them and none of them twigged.
I've been out with a couple of men who wore/wear makeup (musicians, and it was usually stage makeup, the first one was in the 70s when it was really full on), so I thought l was okay with that.
He was amazing in bed. Totally unselfish, just incredible.
Never as his alter ego, though, although l suspect that may have come up sooner or later, and l was a bit unsure about that. I'm straight and not interested in women, so l was a bit wary how it would be with him as that 'persona'.
BUT.... then he came up with the 'sissy' stuff. Sent me a few videos and quite honestly it gave me the creeps. Each to their own, if it doesn't bother you, but it did me. I hated it. So l called it a day. Which was a shame, he was lovely, but no, not for me at all.
If whatever his 'kink' is isn't for you, OP, walk away before you get involved.
I think you'll just get more and more uncomfortable as time goes on, or worse.
Also, if he's constantly 'pushing it' at you now, he's not going to stop. It's going to escalate.

Same! A quick flash of my boobs and he's a very happy man 🥰

Well I dont find using the word pricktease awkward or difficult. I wasn't calling another girl or woman it though was I? I was referring to myself in a mocking manner. Completely different to explain at length about someone else's kink/hobby/ fantasy that I dont fully understand. I've said most people have guessed correctly. I dont think there's any need to further explain than that.

I'm grateful for all the Helpful replies and I was laughing so so hard last night and it really lightened the mood, plus I've sorted it now. I won't dirty delete despite the posts claiming I'm a fatasist, because I still think most of the thread is hilarious.

What's the sissy stuff? Think I'm drawing a blank on that one

Cross dressing then?

I’m guessing it’s not cycling then?

I think from your original post. It’s unfair to put blame on him .
I re read and you weren’t clear that you didn’t like it. You laughed it off and didn’t seem too phased .

He thinks you’re a safe place he can have those talks with .
Id spell it out to him but tbh you are probably out off him now .
Best to end this one