Boyfriends kink

[Kneebonefuture]

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

Maybe the OP is the kinkster and their kink is 'getting online strangers overly invested in an imaginary kink'

She's still not saying. I don't know why? Is quite happy talking about kinks but won't name it. Bizarre.

I mean it's obviously adult baby stuff

Adult baby diaper lover, I'm guessing. Probably likes to dress as a sissy at the same time and piss himself inside out.

Haha you never know!

Now you’ve blocked him He’s just gonna have to piss in the toilet now like Normal people! 😂

It depends how open your conversations are. My wife and I know that we can ask absolutely anything of the other (sexually or not) and we are both free to agree or disagree with the others request. If it's a yes we'll try it. If it's a no then we just move on with no drama at all. That's the kind of relationship you need. One where you know you can ask or decline a request with absolutely no problem at all.

Maybe we're just lucky?

(It's a comedy thing)

"It's not my thing but each to their own "

My guess as well!

Don't tell me he was wanting her to change his nappies FFS? 😂

I'm so curious - what is it?

I'd just say or text regardless, I don't think you need to be ashamed of liking it, but I don't and tbh if it's a deal breaker I think we're better staying friends.

If it’s giving you the ick thinking about it and him mentioning why the hell has he not picked up on your demeanour when he’s going in?
you really need to just say “stop” when he’s mid sentence, and then say I can’t do this, sorry, when you first said about this I was like well it takes all sorts , different people different ways, but the way you’re going on has actually made me see that’s not for me so I won’t be going there, it’s not a good idea, now please don’t mention it again.
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This! Great response. Clear and kind

'Friend' sounds a bit formal non?

:)

It’s not trombonist, is it? Ick.

Why is this friend (who you have no sexual relationship with) sharing his sexual kinks with you?

creepy.

I'm late to the party, but then reading through the thread after the action gives one a different view. Most of your responses are just interested in the kink. The answer to your problem is pretty simple and obvious - he is into something that you find ick - why are you wasting time with him (and why is he wasting time with you?). Both of you need to spend your time with someone who likes what you like.

I'm sorry but if you want to regress to your childhood due to trauma that's one thing (and means therapy is surely needed!)...but if you want to sexualise and get off on being a toddler, ew that's just wrong on so many levels, it's not normal! It could surely only be men that do this abhorrent behaviour? And let's be honest, 9 times out of 10 it's men who are paedophiles. What on earth goes wrong with these men? Porn addiction?! Mental health problem? Surely 99 percent of fetishes are just about humiliation? How many different ways can you humiliate a person? Why is humiliation apparently such a powerful sexual pull (doesn't do it for me at all, am I abnormal?!). Anyone ever think romance and making love is dead now, women have to pander to random and increasingly sinister sex kinks nowadays? Choking anyone? Call me boring old vanilla... but sheesh...I'd rather have someone tell me they love me and give me a massage and have boring old missionary sex with someone I fancy than pretend to enjoy peeling off a pooey nappy from a middle age mans hairy arse crack. Gross. Meanwhile -OP ditch the loser, he's already even told you he's a loser! Have the sex and fun you deserve with someone who doesn't manipulate you and try to push your boundaries to make you feel uncomfortable. Decent people who truly like you don't do that. You should feel safe as a minimum. If you won't ditch them for you, ditch them for the safety of your child.

Urgh. Set him free to find a like-minded kinkster.

OP must be loving this, absolutely nothing they could say would be outing but they’re having such fun stringing everyone along for the most boring post in mn history 😂

It’s a cock cage, has to be. It’s been mentioned a few times, and OP said a lot of people had guessed correctly.

I made the mistake of googling it and now need to wash my eyes and burn my phone.

I’ve been persuaded to try a few of my ex-husband’s ideas but it was the greatest delight and relief to eventually have four blissful years sleeping with someone who really loved “vanilla” sex, in missionary position, as much as I did. Happily celibate now but in my 60s, I would never again entertain anything else.

Each to their own, but I find kinks a complete turn-off. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel you ought to share their weird desires.

The thing about kink - you are totally right. No need to shame anyone, as long as nobody is getting hurt and everyone is consenting - but you do absolutely need to be honest about what you are and aren't into. This may feel awkward if you are more on the shy side - but just as you didn't shame him - don't shame yourself for being able to clearly state what you are or aren't into.