Boyfriends kink

[Kneebonefuture]

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

I think OP when he described himself as a loser, a weirdo and dirty he probably hit the nail squarely on the head. The mistake you made was being ok with that.

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If it's some kind of cross dressing thing it will take over your life.

People who are actually suicidal don’t use it as a threat or tell people about it.

That always seemed a dangerous argument to me. If someone genuinely has suicidal thoughts, they might be afraid to tell anyone because they think they won't be believed.

Is that really what happens? I know someone's wife that does it and she's said the same, but I thought she was exaggerating 😬

Sorry I'm back. Bored basically.

You seem quite keen to talk about cross dressing. Surely there are forums for this...crossnet?

I agree with the poster who said BRING BACK SHAME 😂

Newborn hamster 😂

I was dating a man recently and within weeks he asked me to hold the keys to his cock cage. I said no thanks, but he still went on to tell me about his agp fetish; then he told me he wanted me to procure men and force him to have sex with them. Even though I explicitly told him these things repulsed didn't interest me, he continued to push for them. I got exasperated saying no all the time, and exited the relationship. I found the whole thing quite dehumanising - just a convenient human to facilitate someone's fetish.

Is this man's fetish of a submissive nature OP? Male subs are usually controlling and manipulative in and outside of the bedroom ime. Best avoided

A Mumsnetter is one of the ladies in this documentary.

Thread. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5151159-premiere-of-trans-widows-film-on-friday-30th-aug

Sounds like someone I know and your user name gives it away 😂 yes he’s self obsessed.

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LOVEBOMBING!!!!

Abusers Handbook…it’s all there!

Oh…and loving spotting those who are familiar with kinks/paraphilias and why it’s not always harmless fun! <reading posts and thinking “DON’T GOOGLE THAT!” 😳>

I had to come back and decipher the username - he wants her to worship his Patella?

Boom 💥 💥 💥 goes the thread, and we'll never know.

Right I'm in! He's messaged and surprise surprise its about the issue!

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Tbh i feel like he's used up all my patience, and its pissing me off. Its made me feel like a helpless teenager again when some old perv makes gross comments to you and you have to keep laughing it off and ignoring it and you feel scared and panicky. I realise I'm big enough and old enough to say something and call him out, but I really didn't expect I'd have to with a friend.
Hes mentioned the photo again!! He sent it last night and I managed to ignore it originally, then he asked again, and I made the "i can't really see you in it" comment and now he's brought it up again!!! How many hints that I dont want to talk about it or be included in it does he need???! Obviously I'm going to have to be blunt.

Since last night, you now have 14 pages of responses. I trust that most women have steered you in the right direction!

Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos

its not exactly gentlemanly behaviour and is ignoring my signals

This is what a fetish is OP. It's a type of fixation that almost goes beyond sexual gratification.

It's not gentlemanly behaviour, because he is in a cloud of fantasy right now. He thinks he doesn't have to inhibit himself around you, and it's probably heightened by the fact he might even think he has a chance to do his kink with you on a regular basis given that you both were thinking of getting together.

Run for the hills OP. With your personality, do not knowingly put yourself in a position where you are likely going to get ground down by this or guilt tripped into it. The fact that you thought of yourself as some kind of bitch in one of your posts is alarming and further sign that you should steer very clear of him.

Stay away from him even if he suggests that you two can still be together but he'll never bring it up again. I can guarantee that he will, even if he didn't do so previously as now he knows that you know. He will get resentful that you won't cater to his needs one day, or he will pay for someone who will.

He is Stefonknee mark II? 😧

https://archive.ph/lAtbf

These people need mental health professionals.

Be brave op? Just Say No. No more - mention it again once and we are DONE

@Lavenderfarmcottage what’s pillow princess sex - don’t want to google

He wants to recreate Bone-Knee M doesn’t he.

He's pushy and he's not going to forget about this. He only cares about what he wants. Tell him he's put you off.

Oh i can answer this one, it's where you just lay there while your partner does all the work 🤭🤭

Kind of like laying back snd thinking of England, except you enjoy it

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