Boyfriends kink

[Kneebonefuture]

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

Putting my hat in the ring.

He's into 'chastity' or whatever they call it isn't he?

They put their cock in a little cage thing.

Yes, I didn't know it was a thing either until recently.

PS. Mumsnet has literally millions of users, you are not identifiable in the slightest.

Just tell us.

Just be honest and tell him that you’re not interested and it’s not your thing !

Sorry. I'm having a terrible time at the moment but these GIFs are helping.

You haven't spilled the beans on what the "kink" is despite being bombarded with people questioning you on what it is so you will do just fine telling this guy your stance on the issue.

Maybe then start your own thread rather than make light of a man pushing his kink onto the op of this one and ignoring her boundaries…

FGS, whatever it is and I don't care - just say no. If he persists then SPELL IT OUT.

I had forgotten about rusks! Delicious little biscuits they are!

My guess is adult baby. That seems pretty common from what I've heard!

I agree, OP: he seems to follow a rather obvious strategy of "poor me, I'm a creep I'm a weirdo" to manipulate you into giving up your boundaries. This will never change. And I would also add (and this is personal opinion): kinks are no joke, they reveal deep parts of the personality. Trust your "ick" instinct. Be safe 🙏

He's says he likes X. You say you don't like X. You're not a good couple.

Why the fuck is this a 12 page thread?

Oh vom, he's an adult baby

That is disgusting! OP, run away as fast as you can.

It seems closely related to the DDLG relationships (the female pretending to be age regressed) and it's supposedly more about wanting to be taken care of and not having to make decisions or have the responsibility of an adult. It's a role play thing where people regress back to an age were they have all their needs met unconditionally.

It's very frequently connected to childhood trauma and abuse. Most people into age play are attempting to reenact a childhood they never got to experience. Obviously still doesn't excuse the fact it's a fairly odd kink and doesn't preclude the fact that some people take it to a more sinister level.

I never get these "Name changed/can't tell details because it's outing" posts.

He's into 'chastity' or whatever they call it isn't he?
They put their cock in a little cage thing.

I thought this was mostly a trend in the gay community? There was a fairly hilarious scandal on Tiktok lately surrounding "Locktober". It started in the gay community and involved wearing a cage for the whole month of October. Then it somehow filtered out into the straight male hustle-culture community and was misinterpreted as "locking in" or focusing on work. So the hashtag was being used by two entirely different scenes and many men thought it meant doubling down on work and making money.

Sorry but no.

Wow! I mean, zimmer frames are a wonderful invention for enabling elderly and disabled people to retain some independence and dignity; but I never realised that there were people out there who would see one being used and it causing them to think "Grrrrr, you're looking so hot tonight, Grandma!"

It's the weekend and OP has deliberately left us guessing......get what I'm saying?

Why are you actually talking to this man? He's getting off on you being embarrassed. He's getting off on his own humiliation. You are not into the same things. He is pushing boundaries to a massive extent. He doesn't care that you're not interested in his kink. He's going to keep going regardless of what you think.

If I were you I would shut him down and say I wasn't interested in it at all and was not going to take any conversation any further.

What is the point of talking to him? You're not into the same things. He won't be content unless he's doing whatever he's doing. He's not interested in you as a person just as a facilitator for his kink.

Humans are weird. Come on OP, spill the beans.

OP won't. That was all intentional 🤣

Exactly.

Jumped to the end of the thread.
So you still haven't revealed? 🤨

Nope. And she won't.

It's just tedious that it's soooo embarrassing to say out loud.

But she can conveniently drop hints about dress up and photos.

Literally 🤣