Selling the car I use for work.

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Just that really. Partner has decided he wants to sell the car as things are tight - he has a company Van to do his job and has had permission granted to use it for drop of pick ups at before and after school clubs, incase I can't make it. We work for the same company different sectors.
If he sells the car I can't work! Can't get to my pat h to do my job. Money will be even tighter. I have offered to buy the car from him and reduce what he puts in the bill account to free up some money for him each month. Nope he needs the money now. What the hell am I going to do?!
I have just paid out for some big expenditures
(including on the f*ing car £600, which i didn't mind as I use it mostly) and reduced my savings massively I don't have the funds to get a car - definitely not this side of Xmas.
He thinks all the money of sale of the car will be his. I pointed out I've spent over £1500 on it in repairs (over the last 2 years I have used it) to keep it running and the £1000 towards the cost of buying it.
I know we won't get what we paid for it back it. It has been 5 years since we got it and it wasn't new then.
AIBU

• his name is on the log book it's his car his money

YANBU

• some proceeds should go to me towards being able to get a new car and keep my job.

Your dp is a prick. What does he propose you do? Why does he need the money so urgently? I'd be suspicious that he's trying to pay something urgent you don't know about.

And you call him a partner?

He's not acting like a partner, a team

What else does he do?

Does he not value your job and income?

What's the car worth? Can you get a cheaper one? He's a dick btw.

I don’t understand if money is tight why is he putting you in a position where you lose your job? Or as money just tight for him?!

And what does he need the money for?

He's not a partner is he. He is many, many things but supportive he isn't.

Ask for your 1k deposit back, start looking at joint finances to see where YOU can cut back eg sky, Netflix, anything that he enjoys, and save hard for a couple of months for a cheap runaround. In the meantime ask at work if anyone is willing to give you a lift for a month or two. Most people don't mind if they see an end date.

Long term start looking at splitting. He will never have your back.

EDIT - go on autotrader and look at dealer only cars in your area. See what a little 3 door car will cost you. Dont go private as you have zero protection even though it will be tempting.

Tell him you're handing in your notice and so he needs to take on all the bills whilst you stay home with the kids.

When he queries point out that selling a car you've both financed for selfish reasons seems to indicate he wants you to quit work as he is FULLY aware it's impossible without the car you've BOTH financed.

Sorry but he sounds like an utter dick. I don't say ltb often but this would really make me question the relationship, for him to act with so little regard to you and so much self interest.

Is he happy to use the bus and trains every time you want to go out?

Or indeed, the OP

No Is a full sentence.

Thank you for the suggestions.
Money issues are on his side not mine. We are 50/50 on bills as there is about £500 difference in wages. He can get paid overtime, I get hours incurred and can take up to an extra 14 days holiday a year.
I don't get it as up until 19months ago we were 80/20 as I earned alot less.
I can't ask colleagues for a lift unfortunately as job is patched based they have there own patches. I only managed to get this job and the pay rise because I was driving 😫

Is he not the full picnic? How are your finances going to improve if you don't work?

So does he expect you to lose your job or does he expect you to get your own car? What are his expectations?

What a dick head. Be very clear you want the £1000 back you paid plus the £600 you've just spent on it, if not you'll pay less to the joint account until it balances

Cut all the expenses for him you can. Phones in your name, cut them off, nice food for him all stops.

Do you own or rent? Whose name is the house in?

If he can’t see how much extra he will have to find if you’re not working he is an idiot! LTB!

Seems suspicious to me if you’ve increased your side of the pot yet he is struggling? I’d be quite suspect personally.

How much does he think he’s selling it for and then buy it off him , pack all your stuff and any children into it and drive away . Your partner , and I use the term very loosely , is an absolute knob .

Ok he's clearly not your "partner" as he doesn't give a shit about you. It's probably also borderline abusive as he is deliberately destroying your employment stability, presumably because ot suits him to have you less stable.

Are there kids to consider or can you just split up and stop having this areshole in your life?

There will be ways to get yourself sorted for transport - what inital deposit/monthly payment could you manage? And is it just for commuting or do you drive around as part of your actual work day?

What an asshole he is.

There are ways, are you on UC?
Is there a minimum deposit or monthly costs you can incur to get a car? Some really good deals around OP.

I don't get it as up until 19months ago we were 80/20 as I earned alot less.

That is illuminating OP. He likes it when you are trapped. Now you have more financial freedom and have choices he's decided to trap you again. Start looking at the rest of your relationship for other things like this.

How much is a basic 3 door runaround near you on autotrader? Even if it only lasts a year it will give you the space and time to save for a better one.

Yes, this.

What are your living arrangements? Whose house?

He’s not your partner is he

It is a LA house both named tenants.
So both have the same legal right to occupy, no one can make the other homeless, or remove the other off the tenancy.
@AutumnFroglets What you have said there has just hit me very hard.
We have joint/separate finances so we each cover our 50% of the bills +150 a month so we can pay for insurance and things in one go rather than monthly. What's left is for spends, savings treats, ect.
He has a little extra than me. Yet since this new role I've managed to save up and pay for a family holiday next year, buy the kids all new beds, sort the issue on the f*ing car and generally be much better off.
I would have saved for a car and not spent money on other things had I known he wanted to sell it. I could have afforded one that's the most annoying thing. I can't now for a good few months as 2 weeks ago I paid the deposit for my middle one to go an a school trip to abroad.
I thought things were looking up for us all.
We don't qualify for UC, we are lucky we have been in the house over 10 years so ridiculously cheap rent and child care costs of £60 a month as only need breakfast club. If the rent was the same as my next door neighbours (private rent £1350) I'd qualify.

Beg, borrow or whatever you need to get a car (or keep the one you are using!) - you need to keep your job!

why does your ‘H’ say things are so tight?

Can you buy the car off him?

point out that you could lose your job with no car and not pay anything towards bills

is he gambling? Why does he need money?is it control over you as you are earning?

who does school pick up now as it could all fall to him?