Selling the car I use for work.

[itsmeits]

Just that really. Partner has decided he wants to sell the car as things are tight - he has a company Van to do his job and has had permission granted to use it for drop of pick ups at before and after school clubs, incase I can't make it. We work for the same company different sectors.
If he sells the car I can't work! Can't get to my pat h to do my job. Money will be even tighter. I have offered to buy the car from him and reduce what he puts in the bill account to free up some money for him each month. Nope he needs the money now. What the hell am I going to do?!
I have just paid out for some big expenditures
(including on the f*ing car £600, which i didn't mind as I use it mostly) and reduced my savings massively I don't have the funds to get a car - definitely not this side of Xmas.
He thinks all the money of sale of the car will be his. I pointed out I've spent over £1500 on it in repairs (over the last 2 years I have used it) to keep it running and the £1000 towards the cost of buying it.
I know we won't get what we paid for it back it. It has been 5 years since we got it and it wasn't new then.
AIBU

• his name is on the log book it's his car his money

YANBU

• some proceeds should go to me towards being able to get a new car and keep my job.

Sounds controlling to me.

Pop in to a second hand car dealer and ask about finance. You will need your own car for when you LTB.

This is abuse .
My friend was in a housing association house with her disabled dh ,who was abusive.
She packed his stuff and kicked him out to his parents.
Housing association put the house in her sole name
And the dh got rehoused in a flat .
You would get universal credit without him

Incorrect. Only person named on the logbook can sell the car … they are the registered owner.

No, they are the registered keeper.
The owner is the person who paid for it and can prove that with receipts.

The person named on the logbook is the registered keeper. The logbook literally states on it in big capital letters across the front, "THIS DOCUMENT IS NOT PROOF OF OWNERSHIP".

Are the kids his kids? How long have you been together?

Sounds like a long time if you are both named tenants on a HA house? I don't know the rules around this but can you (threaten to) kick him out?

Neither of them can kick the other out

I think your partner is abusive.

From a practical point of view you cannot loose your job.

How much would the cheapest car you could get cost you?

I'm not in the UK so have no ideas about practicality and possibilities but where I am an employeur could advance the cost of the car of needed for work and then reimburse themselves over 24 months on payroll.

Does the job center have any aids/grants avaliable for you to stay in work?

Is there a friendly small garage in you area which could possibily lease you a cheap run around for a few months?

Do you have the time/energy/possibility to do any jobs/projects that could bring in even a small amount of cash so you can build a "buy a car fund" quicker? (Ironing/cleaning/babysitting?)

Good luck OP.

Has he been like this always? Or is this new behaviour? Because he is being so incredibly unreasonable and financially short sighted that unless this is just his character (greedy, controlling and a bit thick) it looks like he really needs money and urgently. If this is the case, you need to learn why as it may impact your own security.

Tell him to sell a kidney if he's desperate! 🙄

Tell him you'll need to sell the kids beds/cancel the holiday etc to replace the car. You paid for those things so they are yours right?

Same applies to anything else you've paid for.

Are they both your kids? Who's name is on the rental tenancy

How does he expect you to get to work?

I paid the majority of the money for our car but am not the registered keeper on the v5 book - the registered keeper is not necessarily the owner and it does not impact my rights as it can be seen through bank transfers etc that I paid for part of the car.

If I was you I would write down all if the money you have spent on the family and kids out of your own money, what you have paid towards the car and ask that he pays it back or puts it wards the cost of buying him out of the car. If he doesn’t pay his share of the holiday he is not coming - simple. Half of bills means half of kids expenses, activities, clothes, holidays etc… It sounds like he is taking advantage of you and you may be financially better off without him!

If you can't afford to buy another car for a couple of months I would suggest getting a loan. It may well take him sone time to sell that car also.

Then look at how you leave him

IF its his car why have you paid so much money towards the upkeep of the car? Can you not get a small loan to buy the car off him? surely you would only need to give him half the money he wants for it so you can get YOUR deposit back and the money you have paid to keep it on the road?

He's being an absolute dick!
I'm thinking that he's resentful of you earning more than him.
You're covering your share of the bills, paying for a holiday, buying the kids new things, and he doesn't like it.
Most men like to feel that they are the providers of the family, but your earning more and he doesn't like it, so by selling the car, he's tipping the scales back in his favour.
This is not an equal partnership OP, this needs a serious discussion with him.

Why is your money split when you have children? Why should you have to “buy the car off him”—it’s joint family property! The fact that he doesn’t see it that way is a massive red flag.

@itsmeits

The problem is that if the car is in his name, you can't stop him from selling it.

Is it that he wants/needs a lump sum of cash now by selling or is it that he wants to reduce monthly expenses by not having a car?

Because if he wants quick cash I don't get what the difference is if he sells the car to you or if he sells it to Joe Bloggs for the same amount. If he simply wants to reduce monthly expenses then in order to keep it you're potentially looking at paying all costs for the running of the car IF that's truly his only concern.

So, you'll really have to quit your job if he sells the car? And he doesn't care? I think you need to look at the totality of your relationship and decide if it's worth keeping.

Tell him he can't sell the car because you will need to quit your job forcing the entire family into financial hardship frankly he's a moron he got himself in the debt he needs to get himself out without screwing over the whole family

I think it's time to remind him that if you don't have a car he will have to do all of the pick ups and drop offs.

I think you also need to tell him he needs to be responsible for providing all of the Christmas spending. I know you feel you have to do these things for your children but you need to save this money for a vehicle. It's more important that you have a job. Explain to your children what's happened. You need to be honest with them.
Quit sleeping with the twat.

Is he devoid of basic cognitive skills? How does he think you are getting to work? Is it an option to go to and fro with him and the kids (via school) in the works van? Or are you expected to walk, get the bus or train? will the extra travel time shorten your available time to do all the "wife work" that's no doubt 100% your responsibility at present? Will he be picking up the slack? Finally, what is so desperate he needs to sell it now?

Thank you all for the relays.
As others have said I thought the car was a family car. It was when we bought it. He sold the old one, the money i gave was so we could get a better second hand car than we could afford and would need less in the long run. We have had several years. Due to its low mileage and repairs he has been offered a fair bit for it.
Those that have suggested public transport it will take 1.5/2hrs to get to where I work, then my patch is several miles radius. It won't work i need a car for the job. I had a look over weekend the logistics dont work.
We both work for a LHA so very cluded up on housing laws regulations and legislation. I also know that by changing from joint to sole AST will trigger target rent (unless it's have a really nice housing officer when it's changing) my rent will double 😪

No they can’t

OP, have you asked him why he is doing this, and why he needs the money? I think he is hiding something BAD from you. My main two thoughts would be secret gambling debt, or he is planning on leaving you for someone else, and is being vindictive - for some reason wants you jobless and confused?? (Or could he have a OW at work and want you out of the picture?) You need to take action asap: contact dvla, citizens advice, women’s aid, a solicitor. Cancel next years holiday to reclaim as much money as you can, and get a bank loan / use overdrafts to either buy or rent a car. Priority is keeping your job. Hope you get things sorted 🫂