To think if you're invited for lunch you should leave shortly after lunch?

[purplebeansprouts]

say you go round at 11 and then lunch is at12:30 I'd personally be making moves to leave at the most 1 hour after. aibu?

So would most folks.

I would have feigned ignorance and asked who it was

We don't have alcohol in the house

What a utterly miserable thread.

At least, the OP and her husband are well matched.

No, not at all. A leisurely lunch is at least two hours. One hour, I wouldn't even bother travelling for.

I suppose you invite someone just for a cup of tea, but if I was invited somewhere and expected to leave after an hour, I wouldn't go unless the person lived down the road and it was our work from home lunch break or something. I wouldn't bother going to another part of town on a weekend to be kicked out straight after eating.

Sweet Jesus 😱 I just had my mother in law and her friend here for lunch. they came about 1 lunch served at 1:30pm had dessert too they helped clean up. then had coffee and another glass of one and chats in living room. they left about 5. God couldn't imagine shoving guests out so soon after lunch.

I'd tell people 'invite to lunch 12-2'
If I invited someone for lunch and they were here 11-4 I would be well and truly fed off. I can't talk to visitors and cook for 5 hours.

If someone invited me over for lunch at 12:30, I’d arrive just beforehand and make moves to leave about 2:30-3:00pm. If they said to stay, I might stay for a bit longer.

In my home, I love people staying as long as they like. All very relaxed, with various people popping in. When it was grandparents, they stayed as long as they wanted, as they’re family, even the ex’s parents, who weren’t entirely on our wavelength. We didn’t get to see them very often and they’re family.

I'd be thinking we'd be drinking till mid-afternoon - and if not the invite would specify a leave time

If you want people to leave by 1 you need to say it at the invite stage. Otherwise, how do they know there is a time to leave?

Gosh, how dismal

.No booze or pudding and the company of this op huffing that the guests not gone after a hours lunch sounds a really miserable scenario

This. I'd have left early just to get away from the misery.

My parents came at 12.30 left at 4 ish lots of booze pudding and scrabble. But we actually enjoy each others company.

Sorry OP this isn’t a helpful comment at all but my in-laws are French and the very thought of me expecting them to eat lunch in one hour (and finish at 1.30pm!!) has got me 😂😂😂

You talk to them beforehand.

Ah yes it’s lovely you’re coming for lunch. Just to let you know though that we need to be out by 2pm / have work to do in the afternoon etc etc.

If it’s your in laws surely you know them well enough to have such a simple conversation.

That's so rude. We have our reasons for not having alcohol

To be fair to @purplebeansprouts the in-laws sound like hard work, putting her down all the time.

Maybe it's time her husband stood up to them and told them it had to stop or they would not be welcome in the house, nor would they be visiting the parents anymore.

I wonder why he hasn't done that.

How far away do they live?

This is highly relevant.

plus how often you see them.

My dad fairly frequently does flyby meals. But he lives locally and knows we have stuff on.

I wouldn’t say expectations vary wildly as shown on this thread - the vast majority have suggested 4pm would be a standard time to leave after lunch at someone’s house. I would agree.

This too… you may not like pudding etc but if you’re hosting others it’s usually offered.

I get 10 is a bit early but maybe that was hotel check out time

They don't eat pudding either 🙄