To think if you're invited for lunch you should leave shortly after lunch?

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say you go round at 11 and then lunch is at12:30 I'd personally be making moves to leave at the most 1 hour after. aibu?

Agree with this

This sounds as if they don’t live near you, so probably want to make the most of a visit to or near you. It’s not unreasonable that they spend longer than an hour or two for lunch in that case.

I get it op. If I invite people for lunch at 1 I'd want them leaving by 3.

But I know some people would be massively offended if you didn't stay until at least 7. Everyone is different, you've got to be clear when inviting.

I always say something like 12:30 for 1. Nobody would come before 12:30 then.
I would expect people to leave before tea, but they might stay most of the afternoon.
I did have to explain to a relative ages ago that if I was going to invite them for tea as well as lunch, I would have told them in the first place! I can be quite blunt.

4pm is quite late to leave if you were invited for lunch, imo. I'd think 3pm is more like it.

Well, if he wants his parents gone, he should man the fuck up and be honest. That might mean that they won't come again, which sounds like both of you would consider a good thing.

The phrase you need is 'Cup of tea before you get on the road?'

It all depends on circumstances. If lunch is a sandwich, quiche & salad, then maybe an hour after washing up is done. If more, then I'd hope they've gone by 4pm. If they're still with you, definitely don't offer them any more drinks and don't mention or show any signs of making tea. Maybe now, tell them one of you is sorry, but you really need to get something done or sorted before you're too tired later on and and do it immediately - hopefully they'll take the hint that they need to go then.

Hold on, this is your partners parents? I do think some additional slack is required. They raised your partner! Surely some kindness and making an effort wouldn't go amiss? If its your in laws you can't be rude and IMO should just suck it up and try to be hospitable.

They've gone. They said "we won't stay for dinner, best be off".

😐

No

Leave before it’s time to eat again! So about 4 🤣

Ah, yes , my PIL would think nothing of staying until we were getting ready for bed !
In the end I actually used to get their coats at around 5 ish and cheerily thank them for coming . If they didn't make a move to leave I would get the kids around the desk table and start checking homework ect. , then do bathtime. After a few times of doing this they got the hint.

I think it’s really rude to rock up for lunch and then leave soon after.

Ive never been to anyone else’s/they’ve come to mine just for a couple of hours.
Else it looks like you’ve literally just come to fill your belly and then leave again.

I think they left at a normal time.

Perhaps in future, only invite them for dinner (or meet out) and then start dropping hints about how tired you are.

Yes I think if there wasn't distance to travel we'd have had this!

Depends - are you my in laws in which case eat and leave, or are you my best friend and her two kids who I want to colour with, play with, take to the park, let my friend have a nap…oh look now it’s dinner time

Yes!! 👏 👏

I had this every other week for about 5 years.

Don't invite people to lunch.

If I invite fir a weekend lunch its family or close friends and they usually spend the afternoon with us after

Firstly I've never been invited for lunch that early because none of my friends live in a hospital, nursing home or school. 😂
Why can't you tell your guests what time they are welcome from? Obviously 11am is way too early.
In answer to your question though, when we invite family/friends for Sunday lunch they would arrive 1ish and leave...well, they just have... so 5ish.

You sound very unwelcoming. Your h is wet too for slyly texting you. Poor in laws who aren't welcome or wanted.

Imagine being this arseholey to your own parents or in-laws.

I don't know how you coped!

They are quite rude people