To think if you're invited for lunch you should leave shortly after lunch?

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say you go round at 11 and then lunch is at12:30 I'd personally be making moves to leave at the most 1 hour after. aibu?

"we don't do pudding really"

Why even host people when Ur joyless about food?

I'd expect to hang around until dinner time unless one of us had a specific plan

ahhh when it’s in laws you always need a plan for after the plan with them

In laws/out laws/family/close friends can stay for dinner if they want.

Anyone I needed a 2 hour limit on I wouldn't invite to my home, I'd meet them out, if at all

Depends who it is. In laws? They would arrive at 12.30, I’d serve lunch at 1 and by 3.30pm I’d be more than ready for them to bugger off.
Proper mates? They would arrive at 12.30 ish, I’d serve lunch around 2 and they’d still be there at midnight!

LOL if our friends come for lunch they could easily still be here at bedtime 🍷🍸🍺🍾🥃

Oh we do mains in style mind!!

Why bother inviting people round at all if you want them out of the door asap?!

Sounds horrible.

When you say they are meant to be going home do you mean they have come to visit for the weekend and need to travel home or do they live locally and you have seen them all weekend?

If they came at 11am I would expect them to leave about 4pm.
To me it would be rude to just eat and then leave immediately (before 3pm) but staying beyond 5pm would feel like outstaying my welcome as I would guess you would need to get things ready for the kids for the next day.

Oooh you have my sympathy. ILs MO is earlier and earlier arrival and later and later departure..........
After 20 plus years my fixed smile (with gritted teeth) is replaced by announcing a Check Out time for them .......And. Sticking. To. It.
Now them hurtling down the motorway for 4 hours in their late 80's is another thread. Their car displays evidence why........

If they are your in laws can't you crack on with what you need/want to do on a Sunday afternoon and let your partner deal with it?

Not at mine, we'd normally eat and then a few hours of chat and a few glasses of wine. so arrive at 1ish leave about 4-5. This would be the same with of my friends too.

So they've only had a 1 course lunch?

Surely you'll give them some tea and cake, or at least biscuits, before you send them on their way?

Arrive 12 /1 ish leave 4ish

Have they gone yet?

This

That’s considered an eat and run and very rude. I would expect them to stay for the afternoon.
As it’s your in-laws I would expect them to stay as long as they like, that’s family not guests.

Seems a bit eat and run. If 11 I'd say around 2 - 3pm, that way you've got time to eat without rushing and time to have a chat/catch up.

3.30pm

I'd expect the to stay until early evening or late afternoon. around 4 or five . Certainly not just an hour after they have eaten

I think if you want people to leave at certain time you need to tell them : Yes, lunch is great but we only have time until 1.30 due to “ insert a reason” . Is it ok for you?
then at 1.30 say: sorry but we really need move on …

Good news: it won’t happen again as you’ll be more prepared next time so count this one as an experience.

Get the ironing board out and start ironing clothes for work tomorrow, put your pyjamas and slippers on, ask if they want a quick cuppa before they LEAVE, go to the loo for a good half hour, ask if they mind letting themselves out as you’re going in the bath…

My inlaws and parents both live a couple of hours away so if they came to visit for the weekend even if staying elsewhere we'd be expecting to host them for most of the weekend. If they live down the road then it's a bit odd. Is the first time they've visited you for lunch?

Lunches with friends typically start at 1 and finish around 4 for us? That's both them coming to us and vice versa. I'd feel quite rude to shoot off so quickly.

Start clearing up after lunch.
When that's done, sit back down for about 10 minutes.
After that, then do as @Withtheday has suggested, moving them towards the door with every comment/response/reply you give them