To walk away immediately from this

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I met a man through a mutual group of friends. Let’s call him Chad . We’ve been seeing each other a few months, although nothing serious yet.

Chad and I are supposed to go on a trip at the end of november to see a concert. I have the tickets and hotel booking and he hasn’t paid his share yet.

Our mutual friends are throwing an engagement party in December. We were both invited. The engaged couple know we’ve been seeing each other. It’s not a secret.

An old flame of Chad’s is also going to the party. She is flying in from overseas. I know he hasn’t seen her since she left the U.K but they were casually dating before she left.

I jokingly asked Chad if I needed to be concerned that he’d be with her at the party, rather than me.

Chad said he actually wasn’t sure…but feels it might be best to agree that he and I aren’t “together” at the party itself as he “doesn’t want to be in a difficult situation”.

I have told Chad that that didn’t work for me, that I’m keeping the concert tickets and to not contact me ever again.

Chad wants to talk about it some more. Chad thinks he should be allowed more time to think it through. He feels I’m being pushy and giving him an ultimatum.

I’ve told Chad to shove it up his arse and the very fact he even has to think about it, tells me everything I need to know about how he perceives me. He thinks that’s unfair of me before we’ve even talked about it.

I don’t think IABU here, surely?

i get the impression he doesn’t really give a hoot either way

From the OP: " He thinks that’s unfair of me before we’ve even talked about it. "
He's being a whiny little bitch about it so clearly he does care.

Are you still going on about this? You're just making up nonsense. OP never said she only wants to talk to him and only him and won't be interacting with her other friends. Where are you getting that from. Very odd.

Nobody was called names, we constanlty say we shouldn't tolerate men throwing their toys out of the pram but it's ok for us to do it ! It is completely not, it just reinforces the neurotic stereotype of women

Should she have let him keep the tickets she paid for? Allow him to contact her against her wishes? I think not.

You sound as if you've been ground down to 'know your place' by your partner. Shame.

That poster is clearly not worth responding to.

No, I've been raised to be confident in my identity outside of being a man's woman. So I don't need for our relationship to be broadcast and centered at every moment. My relationship is one fantastic part of an overall happy, fulfilled life. I wish that for you some day.

Somebody asked me if my parents were swingers because my mother was able to interact without her partner by her side. I'm answering comments directed at me.

i do agree that i suspect this guy would be baffled the OP thought they were even in a casual “relationship”.

It shows nothing of the sort. You and your wee daydreams.

I joined a couple of days ago. What are you talking about?

I reported a handful of posts for being a personal attack, regardless of who wrote them.