To do this crazy sleeping arrangement

[sleepingsecondhand]

It is strange and I’m sure I’ll get many posts saying it’s strange but if it gets me more sleep I don’t think I care.

We have a four bed house, three good sized bedrooms, one small room.

DH snores, badly, and for a myriad of other reasons we just don’t sleep well together so we don’t do it. So at the moment we have

DH in a double bed in bedroom 1
Me in a double bed in bedroom 2
DS (aged 3, almost 4) in a single bed in bedroom 3
And in theory DD (aged 15 months) in a cot in bedroom 4.

DD appears to hate the cot. I probably should sleep train her but it’s going to be horrible and will have to go for full cry it out which obviously in itself is controversial but ‘gentler’ methods won’t be gentle, she’ll never settle if I’m in the room with her.

However she sleeps OK in a bed. Last week DH was away and I just let her sleep in his double bed and she slept through.

I am considering just letting her sleep in my bed and buying a single bed for her room and sleeping in that myself until she’s old enough to go in a bed. I know it sounds a bit mad but seems the best alternative to cry it out at the moment.

Why can’t she sleep in the single bed in her room then?

Surely the reason she slept well in the double was because your husband was there?
Your empty bed won’t be any different to her own bed? Or am I missing something

Bed guards are suitable from 18 months. For now I would put her on a matress on the floor.

The husband was away. But I’m guessing the sheets smelt of Daddy.

Whatever it takes to get the most sleep for everyone, I say! I could never do cry it out with any of mine so ended up letting them sleep in with me :) whatever works for you. Maybe a mattress for her on her floor?

DH wasn’t there - and the sheets were actually brand new so wasn’t that. I’ve no idea what it is, just comfier I suppose.

Sleeping in her own single bed wouldn’t be safe as she moves around a lot - I can keep her safe in a double because I bolster her with pillows but she’d fall out of a single.

Put a mattress on the floor in her room if you think the larger bed helped. I'd place it on slats though so it has some air flow. Floor beds are also a thing and you can buy traditional Japanese sleeping mats too.

It was more likely to be the comforting smell of the sheets though, perhaps give hers a squirt of your perfume instead.

It wasn’t the smell of the sheets (not unless she likes eau du Sainsbury’s …) her room is tiny, there isn’t room for a mattress plus a cot or bed or anything else. I’m not sure she’d sleep on the floor anyway, she doesn’t seem to like being low down.

I don't understand why she just can't sleep in the single bed.
We had a single bed in DC1's room, she asked at 13 months to sleep in it and never slept in her cot again.

I’ve explained - at the moment she’d probably fall out of it. In the future she can move to it.

The inflatable bed guards were good for us

I’ll have a look - thanks.

Just get a bed rail for the single bed?

Could do but it’s unlikely to be undisturbed nights sleep if she keeps bashing against it. I think that may be the issue with the cot.

Bedroom 1; parents
Bedroom 2; son
Bedroom 3; daughter
Bedroom 4; spare for parent who wishes to sleep alone.
I went for this as I assume the adults do like to be in a bed together at some point 😁

If her room is tiny and there isn't room for a bed and a mattress on the floor then there's not much room for her to fall out! Could you at least shove some pillows or something down one side and have the other side next to the wall (together with a bed guard too)?
I think I'd try that before I resorted to your plan A if I'm honest.

No - we never sleep together unless holiday or something and even then not if there’s an alternative.

Get a single bed for her and put a foam wedge under the sheet. Choose a lower style of bed.
Lots of toddlers don't like cots.

What's crazy about it? Sounds very sensible, unlike cry it out.

Cross posted, sorry. We put pillows on the floor, DD did fall out of bed a few times but it was usually a slow descent and she never woke up!

You might have to rethink the sleeping arrangements anyway if her room is so tiny. Kids need more space than adults IME.

If her bedroom is tiny, she’s not going to fall out too far. I’d get rid of the cot and give her a single bed with a bed guard on one side and wall the other.

At that age, my second child was sleeping on a single mattress on the floor in their room. We tried everyone except cry it out. This woeked well, and I had no fears about him falling out.

he now sleeps really well. No rods were made in our backs as a result!!

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You never share a bed? no sex?

Mattress on the floor....

Why assume that?

We have unorthodox sleeping arrangements too. If a double bed does it for your daughter then just do that immediately! Whatever works at this point, you can always get a low bed for you in her room and swap in a few months.