To do this crazy sleeping arrangement

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It is strange and I’m sure I’ll get many posts saying it’s strange but if it gets me more sleep I don’t think I care.

We have a four bed house, three good sized bedrooms, one small room.

DH snores, badly, and for a myriad of other reasons we just don’t sleep well together so we don’t do it. So at the moment we have

DH in a double bed in bedroom 1
Me in a double bed in bedroom 2
DS (aged 3, almost 4) in a single bed in bedroom 3
And in theory DD (aged 15 months) in a cot in bedroom 4.

DD appears to hate the cot. I probably should sleep train her but it’s going to be horrible and will have to go for full cry it out which obviously in itself is controversial but ‘gentler’ methods won’t be gentle, she’ll never settle if I’m in the room with her.

However she sleeps OK in a bed. Last week DH was away and I just let her sleep in his double bed and she slept through.

I am considering just letting her sleep in my bed and buying a single bed for her room and sleeping in that myself until she’s old enough to go in a bed. I know it sounds a bit mad but seems the best alternative to cry it out at the moment.

She can’t walk properly yet (a few wobbly steps but definitely not that competent a walker yet.) However that’s another consideration with the double bed.

Happy, no. Hence I’m looking at alternatives. But a floor bed is unlikely to work, would be extremely uncomfortable for me if I had to sleep on it, wouldn’t be practical. If given the choice between letting her have my double and letting her sleep on the floor I’ll let her have my double. Equally, I am not prone to be silly about cry it out. If I went down that road, she’s in her cot, not a dungeon.

Mine were climbers so went into a single bed with a bed guard when they were 12 months.

Sounds like she just needs her own bed.

Totally get you. Until ours were at least 2, they slept in our bed most of the time, because they liked the comfort of snuggling up. But we only had one bedroom, so the kids beds were in the same room anyway. Sometimes, we lifted them into their own bed once they were fast asleep, but realise this makes some kids wake up.

Whatever works best for you all, as we’re all different. Good luck.

My DD was in a single bed at 8 months. Just put her in the bed! You can put some pillows down on the floor if you're worried about her falling out altho you'll be surprised that actually they learn pretty quickly not to fall out

Is the question if it is crazy for a toddler to have a double bed when a parent would have a single? I'm gonna go with no.
But then again my dad's room was a single and kids room was a double and mine was a double

I'd get a low down single bed and have her sleep in her own room. I would have suggested a bed guard, but it sounds like she's a bit young for that from some of the posts here, so you could use a pool noodle under a fitted sheet instead to try to keep her from rolling off. The Ikea Kura might be a good option because you can flip it over and use it as a cabin bed when she's a bit older. We've got something similar in our small bedroom, and it's still suitable for my youngest at almost eight years old.

If you put her in a double in your room there's a risk that becomes 'her room' in her mind, and you could struggle with the transition to get her back into her bed in a few years time. My youngest still rolls around all over the bed at almost eight so it might be something she doesn't grow out of quickly! The rails of his cabin bed keep him contained, but when he was in a cotbed he ended up on the floor most nights without waking himself up!

I sleep separately from OH. We spend a lot of time in each other's beds though.

Yes! Forgot to say get the double,makes story time much easier,just get in too.

^^ what @GlasgowGal82 says. Honestly I think you're bonkers to be considering her in your room and getting her used to that when there are many options available for a low bed for her in her own room. Ikea even does one that you can flip over when she's older so she has a cabin bed and a little play space underneath.

Buy the single bed with a bed guard for the single (can get bed guard cheap on marketplace).

Try it, if it doesn't work, you've got the single for you and double for her, if that's what you want to do.

Just get a toddler bed with a rail?

I would put the noisy husband in the small room, the kids have the 2nd and 3rd rooms and the first is your room which you can allow your husband in as and when

I think it's a good idea overall, but I wouldn't put her on the bed until she is able to go up and down comfortably on her own. So it depends how mobile she is and whether she is already able to do that now.

She probably won't fall down sleeping with bed guards (or we found those long pillow type thing in Amazon that you put under the fitted sheets, much better IMO). But if she is anything like my kids, she will fall when she wakes up and launch herself go down.
I can see a huge difference in our DD between now (17 months) and a couple of months ago. She is completely fine getting down in her own now, and she naps in our bed.

Floor beds are exactly as comfortable as normal beds. It's a mattress on slats with an air gap underneath, there's just less leg. Doubles are dangerous if they fall out due to the height. But you've made up your mind that you want to do exactly what you planned and aren't interested in other options so I'm not sure why you're wasting everyone's time on this. 🤷‍♀️

OK - but we’re not having one.

Thanks for tips. Will have to have a think and see what’s best.

Don’t answer the thread then. The only person wasting everyone’s time is you. I don’t want a floor bed. I may get a single or I may do cry it out. I haven’t decided but I have decided and haven’t even considered a floor bed so keep your stupid faces to yourself.

YABU for saying gentler methods won't work with your DD when she's only 15 months old.

Mine went straight onto a double mattress on the floor and were fine. Whatever you need to do 👍

Ah seen your last post. You're too unpleasant to bother with anyway.

Equally, I am not prone to be silly about cry it out.

It's not silly to not relish the prospect of abandoning your child to cry.

A lot of toddler beds are sort of on the floor but with short sides to stop them falling out.

Google toddler house bed for the style. I'd try one of them.

Otherwise you get the master, snorer in the single with storage in master.

keep your stupid faces to yourself

that made me smile 😂

I put my youngest in a double bed at about 14 months and it was fine. Didn’t fall out, just used a cot duvet and no pillows. Went straight back to sleeping through after not sleeping in cot.
I also don’t share a room with my DH

Can you buy a montessori bed? it ground level.