To wonder why dp can't get a job this way

[Lacky301]

Dp can never get a job directly with a employer his applications are always rejected or he doesn't hear back.
We are trying to avoid agencies as his last workplace had a hire and fire system dp got settled there after been there almost 2 years but company didnt have enough work so he had to finish.

Op - do not spend another penny of your own money on this man.

He needs to fund himself, stop sending money home etc. If he doesn't have the money for the visa, he needs to return home or get relatives to send money back to pay it - do not pay it for him.

To be honest - how did he ever get into the UK? He can't have got in as a skilled worker etc.

Is he paying half the rent, bills and food?

Im amazed he had 4-500 left each month to send home unless you are providing housing/bills etc.

Generally speaking, he needs to realise, the cost of living in the uk is high, generally unless a higher earner, he wont be able to save/send money home. The money he has sent home is why he can't afford public transport, training, visa etc.

He had a excellent reputation at his workplace he was damn quick to learn became thier best employee even surpassing people who had been there 20 plus years.

Did he tell you this?

Talk to his old boss yourself, you may get a different story. Companies don't often get rid of their best employee so its unlikely to be true.

Threads like this make me so angry. OP is not a well off woman herself and this guy has sent probably £10,000 of money off to relatives in another country. He will probably vanish in another couple of years and leave OP worse off.

Most immigrants are skilled, hard working people who contribute a massive amount to our society. They are here to build a life, they are keen to acquire education and People like this guy are what gives immigrants a bad name.

Here https://www.oneeducation.org.uk/course/forklift-training-online-course/

Link isn't working however he has a telephone appointment on Friday from a place that does government funded forklift training

Probably on a child's inflatable dinghy to claim asylum all the way over the English Channel....OP has been taken in hook line and sinker😔

He bought home a written reference on his last day

We are trying things but people are still criticising left right hand and centre.

I dont think a prospective employer will pay any heed to that, anyone can fake a letter. If they need a reference they will contact the previous employer directly

Well yes I'm just saying I've seen proof that he was a good employee

Seems like you are the one doing all the trying, writing CV, looking up courses and trying to get him a job. What is he actually doing for himself to get a job? He needs to demonstrate that he can take responsibility for his life and advocate for himself.

I was going to suggest this, but she says that they didn't reply. I would try again. We have an independent cobblers nearby- could he try seeing if there are any of those?

This isn't about a permanent work contract, it's all about his priorities.

His family abroad are his top priority; above you, above getting some UK qualifications, above driving lessons, above bus fare, above everything else.

Every adult would like to do as they please with all their disposable income, but the fact is we have to prioritise paying rent & bills as well as costs getting to our jobs (if we have extra we should be saving some of it to cover our bills as a contingency). If he can't manage this, then I'd walk. Even if you're not the priority, if he can't pay his bills and save for his half of his visa, (while sending all his money home) then he's just not worth the stress.

I’m not sure where you are getting this idea from. I help people with their CVs and see a lot of refugees. They all include their previous education with an additional statement as to the uk equivalent qualification. Plus any jobs from their home country. Why discount that?

So what actually was until now on the CV you were sending out?

Can't he team up with someone from his community?
My DH is not British but he has multiple businesses and there's always some work in the back kitchen/washing up/serving available. Or he will know of another shop who needs someone to put stock out. It's all about connecting. People of his own background often pop in when they are seeking employment. It's not ideal for the long run, but atleast it could bring in some money which is better than nothing?

Not criticising you. Please read this thread as a wake up call as to how your husband is treating you, your situation, your vulnerability. It can be incredibly frustrating to see women stuck in these horrible cycles when there is so much help available to them. This lifestyle isn't sustainable and it can't be enjoyable. You have other options open to you. People are angry on this thread because they want you to realise this. We want better for you.

The course i looked up where the link didn't work, not sure why, but I googled one education forklift warehouse , do try that and you'll find it, and that's where it took me, had a face price of 425 with a reduced price of 29.50. That rang bells so loud we'd all hear them. That's a ridiculous discount. It is not legit in any way. You don't need a driving licence to drive a forklift in a warehouse as it is private space (checked this with DP), but you do need to do a practical test.

That was suggested too on previous thread iirc

He doesn't have links close by his friends are all living in a major city.

Can you move to the major city?

No it's far too expensive and I want to be close to my son etc.

Also these people can be a let down

Don't move for him.

Stop giving him money.

Stop trying to help him get a job.

Stop having sex with him.

Stop putting up with all this.