To wonder why dp can't get a job this way

[Lacky301]

Dp can never get a job directly with a employer his applications are always rejected or he doesn't hear back.
We are trying to avoid agencies as his last workplace had a hire and fire system dp got settled there after been there almost 2 years but company didnt have enough work so he had to finish.

We did nikah if that's relevant to these people

He probably tells them he has a great job and he’s paying it

So you don't give them a second thought but do hand over money. There's literally no helping you, is there.

I deffo won't be

I'm thinking of dp not me he obviously gives them thought and that's fine whilst he's working as its his money

But he isn't working and you are paying.

Thier last lot of money came out of his very last wage so now they will be without until he gets a job

Good, well done, i hope you stick to that.

Oh I will

Right but you do without as a couple to the tune of £6k a year which it doesn’t sound like you afford to miss tbh if you’re struggling to pay rent. If you weren’t as a couple sending that money to Pakistan you could be having fabulous holidays or be saving up to buy a home or rent something nicer or at least not be on the breadline worrying you can’t make rent after one of you has been out of work for a fortnight.

This is ridiculous but you are only one of many women on here that puts her own self interest aside for the ‘love’ of some deadbeat who doesn’t have her best interests at heart. Good luck as I think you will need it.

I'm scared of debt

We are a couple so it's gonna be my debt as well. Anyway I am going down the qualification route but just need to get visa extension out of the way

It would be his debt, not yours. You are not married, you don't need (and in this case with a useless deadbeat in tow, shouldn't have) joint finances.

He's an illegal overstayer with no qualifications, who has latched onto a clearly vulnerable woman. You can do better. I bet your son is worried.

OP there is no point engaging in things you don’t want to do- other posters are convinced they have the answers and won’t accept any response. In fact, when you agree to their demands, as above, they’ll move onto something else to berate you with.

if I were you I wouldn’t post about this relationship anymore. Do you think it might be your ADHD that is making you obsessively post over it?

In that case cut off his money supply. He won't be able to leech on you in the name of his family then.

And tell him to get to an agency, take any work going and justify his cocklodging existence.

I don't know I'm all consumed and mind is foggy can't see things clearly

Are you married?

And? He's free to send home his free money after paying his rent and bills.

It's not really fair to call him a deadbeat though is it he's just a bit unfortunate and misguided. He had a excellent reputation at his workplace he was damn quick to learn became thier best employee even surpassing people who had been there 20 plus years. He's no cocklodger or deadbeat that term is so unfair.

OP has asked a question out applying direct for warehouse work. It’s a bit of a non question, and has been answered pages ago.

all of your and others “advice” is outside of the question and much of it is naive, and wrong (other posters not yours specifically)

hes been out of work for 2 weeks- all he needs is another warehouse job. What’s the big deal? He doesn’t even need to be more employable, he just needs a job the same as his old one.

I really should stop posting shouldn't I or have the thread taken down as I'm getting more and more confused.