To not want to pick ds up from nursery?

[tiredsince2020]

And I feel really horrible but is it just me who dreads having to go to nursery to get their child?

I have always had this and around this time of day have the horrible pull of guilt that he’s almost certainly had enough and will want to come home and the knowledge that I’ll have three to four hours of him

I had one of these! I used to get home from work at 4.30 and arranged pick up for 5.30 so I could have a cup of tea, throw on a wash/call mum/prep dinner.

OP won't miss it. I don't. You know why? It doesn't actually stop unless you use the longest stretch of after school club. DS6 gets home from school and badgers me until I play football in the garden. Frankly after a 7 hour workday I just want to lie on the floor. However they do get more independent - DS will draw and watch a film now!

I don’t, which is why I responded a bit shortly to the person hand wringing about the poor staff and my poor DS. Just mum guilt I suppose.

This is a really stupid reply. The OP is not saying she’s going to pick her kid up late??

Evenings are HARD. Everyone is tired. You need to get dinner on and simple things can end up being a fight “I DIDNT WANT CUTTED UP PEAR!!!” And it’s draining. When DD was 3-4, she was pretty screamy and I also was not excited at pick up. Am I going to get Jekyll or Hyde?!

Not everyone wants to give their kid some shitty food and bung them in front of a TV either 🙄.

TBH that poster’s reply was idiotic. Likewise to all the people saying “you’ll miss this precious time, just have a cuddle and let your house turn into a tip…” Just because we’ll miss it in the future, doesn’t mean it isn’t really hard right now!

Yes it is hard going . My six year old will just go into a TV trance and watch it but my two year old is another matter... Hence I often pick up at 5.30!

@tiredsince2020 it can be hard. My son’s nursery closes at six and although I finish work at five I sometimes get a coffee and just sit on a bench with it across the road from the nursery until five forty five. I love my son but that breathing space makes a huge difference.

can you put him in a nursery which closes at six? How old is he?

Sorry, just saw it’s open until six.

What time do you finish work OP?

Could you pick up later so you have a little time to yourself beforehand to decompress?

My two year old is like this. He goes for a couple of mornings of week and kind of wish he would stay there all day. I am not really enjoying it very much at the minute.

😂😂😂 don't listen to this rubbish, you pay till a certain time so your entitled to use them hours.
A lot of children love the interaction they get at nursery and remember the nursery workers have set working hours so they will be there till their own finishing hours whether your child is there or not.

I do believe you may be burnout Op, do you have anyone who could help a little bit whilst you try work on the situation

Thanks. I think staying until 6 would be a hell of a long day (he also has a younger sister.) I could theoretically leave them both until half five but I always feel bad at half three and by four mum guilt sends me out. Then I regret it!

I feel rotten but I’ve never enjoyed DS much, I don’t exactly mean I don’t love him but our relationship is a tricky one at best.

You could give yourself a day a week where you pick up a bit later? I totally understand the mum guilt, but you need to look after yourself too 😊

What about OP?

I used to get home at 4.30 and you can bet your arse I sat down and had a cuppa and a chocolate bar in peace before collecting at 530 and the evening onslaught.
When one was at school and one at nursery it was a nice time to just hang and have some quiet 121 time.

This is an awful time of year for it too. If you can walk home or get outside for a bit when you've collected him - playground for 20 mins on the way home? - it does help.

Why not collect a bit later? Not necessarily hours later but 5 or so

I know, I should, but … mum guilt. It’s a powerful thing!

If that was your experience then you didn't have a good nursery.
Most kids have the odd bad day (they are little humans after all!), but mostly they should be settled and enjoying their time with their little friends.

Are you able to collect at 3.30 but don't want to?

Most people work until 5ish at least, so your child wouldn't be the last one to be picked up.

If you get him at 4 and he's up 4 hours later he's probably exhausted so hyper and won't stop. I'd look at earlier bed.

Yes. But in fairness they do have tea around then which is a good reason for waiting half an hour.

Oh he’s always hyper.

Does sound like over tiered and over stimulated.

How many hours sleep does he get? hyper children are often over tiered.