Teens kicking off about nye party

[Hopelessinhomecounties]

Wwyd. We want to have a bit of a party on new year. This would mean that our friends would come over and we’d let their kids come too if they wanted.
My kids are kicking off as they say it will be really awkward and they’ll have to host.
They know all the kids; most of the other kids know each other or have some connections between them.
When we’ve done this kind of thing before they’ve ended up having a good time. I’m worried that they are getting really closed. Covid didn’t help and they just have small groups of friends and that’s it. If kids came round they’d have gaming/films/games/hanging out loads to do! I don’t see a problem. But they are furious.
what have you don’t in this situation to get kids that don’t know each other really well have a party too and relax about hanging out…
when I was younger I got on with it if my parents had a party and I think it makes you more confident at new work places/ gyms / parties if you are used to just getting on with it.

..so why would they put in effort for something that they don't want?

In a few years time, I expect op would rather not have teenagers partying in her house, and gfs/bfs staying over. She can just say no then, can't she, because her house is her safe space, and why should she put in effort for something she doesn't want?

What patronising tone? I am merely pointing out that having a party at which alcohol is served doesn't necessarily mean that people will get drunk, as per my earlier comment:

Where are you getting "excuse to get pissed up" from? There is no indication of that in Op's post. Not everyone uses NYE or a party as an excuse to get drunk! Perhaps you do and can't imagine anyone acting in any other way? But Op's 'bit of a party' with children invited too really does not sound like any adult is going to over-indulge and get falling-down drunk. She is concerned about her teens and hoping they will use this occasion to socialise a little as they used to before covid. There is plenty of time before NYE for her teens to either accept the idea, or make other plans.

I think there is a consensus emerging.

Most pp seem to think it’s okay for you to have the party op, but the teens should be free to join in or not join in if they want. Yes they have to be polite and greet the guests and make them welcome, but after that they are free to do as they like. You should make it clear to your friends that teens may or may not be around, and they can decide if a babysitter is a better idea.

Children are not performing seals 🦭
Equally good manners and etiquette are important and universal life skills.

‘Do you know, it is quite possible to enjoy an alcoholic drink at a party without getting drunk. This may be a novel concept for some’

THIS patronising tone

Absolutely this.

Sorry @CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo I think I confused your post with another. My apologies :)

My daughter would react exactly like this. I’m assuming they’re teenagers? Don’t force them to include themselves and “babysit“ the other kids as you will be the one that will be the brunt of this. Just let them opt out and stay in their rooms if they want to and make sure they know that they don’t have to participate if they really don’t want to. it gets more difficult to inflict this kind of thing on teenagers as they get older, they wouldn’t thank you for it so don’t force the issue