DH: don't ever, ever, ever ask me that again.

[Limemouse]

If my DH doesn't pick up when I phone will always ask him, 'why didn't you pick up,' when he answers the second time or when he phones me back.
I admit I will always ask him and will always reply with either I didn't hear or I was busy.

Last week I asked him the same question and he told me I was annoying him with such infantile questions and it was better I never phone him again if I was going to ask that question again

i think he is being unreasonable. It's a standard question to ask.

Why do you ask him that?

I would be really annoyed by you keep asking that. It’s like you are scolding a child.

Obviously he didn’t hear it or didn’t get to the phone.

Why is it that he isn't answering the phone? Is he just ignoring you or is he busy with other things?

What’s behind you asking? It would drive me absolutely mad tbh, work out why you’re doing it and stop it!

I'm with your DH on this one. Someone calling you is an invitation to talk, not a summons. If you're already dealing with something else, then you get to them, when you get to them, and don't owe them an explanation as to what you were doing prior.

YABU

If someone didn't pick up it's because they were busy, didn't hear the phone or don't want to speak to you. You really don't need to keep asking.

YABU. Stop it.

Presumably he doesn't pick up because he can't answer the call. What else do you need to know?

Oh God I'd go mad if you kept asking me that. Obviously the answer is because he didn't hear it or didn't get to it in time or was busy. Who cares?
It sounds awful, like you're checking up on him or don't trust him.

If you rang me and asked me that question I’d ALWAYS let your calls go to VM.

I'd never answer again if you kept asking that

My dad is like this, drives me up the freaking wall!

He’s not being unreasonable. It’s rude to demand he gives you an explanation every time he doesn’t answer the phone.

He's right. How irritating of you.

You are over 18 aren't you?

Of course YABU!!

How very irritating! I’d feel like I was being checked up in all the time. Good grief. Stop that!

Totally unreasonable. In the first place, there are many many innocent and reasonable reasons why someone doesn't answer the phone. And second, you've been asked repeatedly not to, and you keep doing it...

Could it be dementia?

YABU.

I would just assume he was busy, doing, you know, work. Or he was sitting on the toilet. Either way it’s better that he doesn’t answer.

Continuing to ask sounds very needy.

Because I was on the bloody loo!

It would drive me nuts if you asked me that anytime I didn't pick up. You are being very unreasonable!

I would never pick up your calls. You sound awfully needy.
DH and I communicate by WA because we hate interruptions

Does he ignore you or not give you enough attention generally?

Is this a reverse?

Is your DH asking you to check up on you? Demanding to know why you don’t answer his calls?

This is really needy and pathetic. How annoying.

I agree with others that your asking that every time would be deeply annoying.

If he spoke to you in the exact wording of your OP title then he is unreasonable too though, as it’s no way to speak to anyone.