Should I shag the 25 year old

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NC for obvious reasons.

Long story short, I'm 6 months out of an abusive marriage. Not in any way ready to date or for a relationship, I'm still far too hurt to even contemplate that. But I do miss sex.

Last week, a guy randomly approached me and gave me his number. We've chatted a bit, it turns out he's 10 years younger than me. From his messages, I get the impression he's only after one thing.

I'm really, really tempted. I could really do with a good shag. But I'm also worried it could go horribly wrong and leave me feeling terrible. So, please help me decide. WIBU to shag the 25 year old?!

Don't be daft, 40 is not middle age. No one considers it so in the real world.

First time sex is often awkward - maybe give him a second chance?

Yeah, the bar is set very low on this thread isn't it? Proud of the OP for shagging a 25 year old?! (And he wasn't very good anyway.) There is really nothing to be 'proud' of FGS! It was just a shag, and not a very good one at that (according to the OP.). Anyone can shag. What is there to be 'proud' of?!

Have to say, the younger men (under 25) who I shagged before I met DH were quite average, or poor. DH is the first one who was actually decent/good! (He was 24 and I was 23.)

Phew! I thought it was just me who absolutely hates the word shag & the term shagging. It makes sex sound like something dogs do to their bitches😂

Yes, 40 is classed as middle aged officially, but then 65 is classed as elderly.

I don't class 40 as middle aged, OR 65 as elderly and think the 'boundaries' need changing. 11 categories...

Under 1 - baby.

2 to 3 - toddler.

4 to 6 - Infant.

7 to 12 - young child.

13 to 19 - teenager.

20 to 29 - young adult.

30 to 44 - adult.

45 to 55 - middle age.

56 to 69 - Senior.

70 to 89 - elderly.

90+ very elderly.

How about we just stop categorising people by irrelevancies like age? That list is absurd.

I vote second chance. He just need training up a bit.

I agree.
I bet he was super nervous.
You could show him/tell him.

it's a horrible word. I personally have never done this. I have had sex, made love and done some other things, but I have never done this.

To me it just degrades the whole act - makes it seem a bit dirty, unimportant, casual, somehow 'cool' but not at all - so bad. And it has a vague hint of Shaggy from Scooby Doo, which really is not a good feeling.

And tbh I think even dogs have a more respectful attitude to their beeches.

*I don't class 40 as middle aged, OR 65 as elderly and think the 'boundaries' need changing. 11 categories...

Under 1 - baby.

2 to 3 - toddler.

4 to 6 - Infant.

7 to 12 - young child.
13 to 19 - teenager.
20 to 29 - young adult.
30 to 44 - adult.
45 to 55 - middle age.
56 to 69 - Senior.
70 to 89 - elderly.

90+ very elderly.*

I don't think some of those are correct at all. Infant means a baby! And where in your list does a child from 12 to 24 months fit!

I think most people think of a small/ young child as being 3 to 5, not 11 and a half !!

Don't wear granny knickers

Granny knickers😂 Is this the norm for you?

I was making a silly joke, the lad's young and in his mid 20s.

And I always assumed that the older you become the bigger your pants are.

Hmm @NWFsjd he’s 25 year’s old, not a lad, OP’s 35.Never heard of that, as soon as someone gets past 30 they automatically put weight on.

I wouldn't change what sort of knickers you wear just for him.

One thing I learned from my fling with a 21 year old is, don't try to be young / compete with women his age, just be yourself - your age is part of the appeal.

What's the worst that can happen? You either have an amazing time or you have a good story to share with your bestie. Life is short!

So much internalised misogyny on this thread!

I had two relationships of sorts with older men (9 years older, and decades older) and they were probably the worst in bed I've had.

One has ED, but was not honest about it ... . the other PE.

Neither appeared to have a clue (or any interest) about the existence of the clitoris and what you might do with it.

The 9 yrs older guy (with PE) would shag you with virtually no foreplay, over in seconds and go to sleep quite happy with himself. Knew I wasn't having a climax of any sort; he was perfectly ok with that, as long as he got his dick wet.
(I asked him to use his fingers on my clitoris, not just finger me penetratively; and he would do it for a couple of seconds and then go back to fingering me penetratively - like a robot with one programme. I gave up asking after a couple of times).

Meanwhile a friend of mine"s ex, both each others first - says he was absolutely amazing. Best dyes ever had. So motivated to get her to climax and so open minded.

It's not really anything to do with age, it's to do with personality.

It’s been blatant.And it’s not just coming from men.

Give him another chance, but don't just go for sex, go out a few times, laugh together, talk. When I met late dp we didn't have sex for at least the first couple of weeks, our first date we went to a nearby town & just walked, talked, went for a drink, walked a bit more found somewhere else to have something to eat & drink, then sat on a bench at the side of the river snogging like teenagers. Our second date, we just watched a movie with wine, chatting & the next thing we knew, it was getting light, it was 4.30am. Maybe you took it too fast & if you got to know each other a bit more, it would be more relaxed.

But OP doesn’t want to date him ?? (Or didn’t at least!)

There will always be those who hook up for sex. I hate the idea but it's a choice & nobody elses business. If it turns out less satisfying than anticipated there is always the local football team
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