Should I shag the 25 year old

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NC for obvious reasons.

Long story short, I'm 6 months out of an abusive marriage. Not in any way ready to date or for a relationship, I'm still far too hurt to even contemplate that. But I do miss sex.

Last week, a guy randomly approached me and gave me his number. We've chatted a bit, it turns out he's 10 years younger than me. From his messages, I get the impression he's only after one thing.

I'm really, really tempted. I could really do with a good shag. But I'm also worried it could go horribly wrong and leave me feeling terrible. So, please help me decide. WIBU to shag the 25 year old?!

True!

I was also warned he would be a disease riddled rapist and I'd be a pedophile for sleeping with him though, so you know 😂

He probably wanted you to teach him the way!

Standard on here!😂

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Better luck next time

You only regret the things you don’t do and all that. Chalk it up and hopefully the next time will be a lot more fulfilling.

He’s 25, not 16 years old.He’s a fully grown man. If he doesn’t know the way by now would he ever😂

Exactly.
The only issue on here was, one rule for men and another for women.As many have already said, if it was the other around, op was 25, he was 35, nobody would’ve batted an eyelid.

Oh sorry girl 🥺. At least you know now x

I didn't have full sex until I was 23. Not everyone sleeps around in their teens and gets lots of experience with multiple people to be fair to him!

To be fair, I'm not sure if it was lack of experience on his part or just a lack of chemistry between us. I just wasn't feeling it in real life!

You’re missing the point @creamandcookies2 not sure why you’re taking offence.Nobody said everyone sleeps around, when they’re in their teens, l didn’t, so what! That’s not relevant, neither, is that you were 23 when you had 'full sex’!
My comment was to Hollyknight, who said, the 25 year, probably wanted OP to teach him the way! I said at 25, if he doesn’t know the way already, will he ever, as he’s a fully grown man.
You don’t have to have had sex, to understand particularly when you’re 25! Unbelievable, that some people think this way.

Oh no! I wasn't offended in the slightest. Where did I say I was offended? I was just making a suggestion as to why some people may not be as confident in the bedroom even at an older age, as I know this from personal experience. I don't understand what you mean by 'the way', that's very vague. What's so unbelievable about thinking that Inexperience and a lack of confidence MAY affect one's skills in that department?

@creamandcookies2 Maybe read the other comment, which l originally responded to, that’s where, maybe he wanted OP to teach him the ‘way’ came from.This thread is about a 25 year old man, who propositioned a woman for sex in his workplace and told her it would be casual.
From this, l’m not getting the inexperienced naive 25 year old, who has little confidence or sexual inexperience.I’m only going by the thread, not your experience or anyone else’s.

Well done OP I'm proud of you. You would never have known how it would turn out if you hadn't, and you were brave and went for it and now you know. No harm done. It's another step made in getting over your ex as well. Loads of positives to focus on.

yes to absolutely all of this.

I beyond detest this idea that a woman of 40+ with a guy of 20-something is unnaturally depraved. It just so is not. As @Foxxo says, it has so much going for it.

And I think it’s just also deeply insulting to both consenting adults, too. Totally agree the good 20-something attitude and behaviour knocks the spots of jaundiced 50-something. Also a lady doc in another thread posted that women over 40 need their vaginas frequently filled up both structurally and with precious peptides and proteins soo.. another win for the polite, respectful, funny, clear-headed, super positive younger man. Who tends to get very hard, often.

This.

And this would also make me inclined to say no to him.

? Have you ever looked at a mature 20-something guy who goes to the gym every day?

ok ok no abusive language on here - not on to call someone middle aged, especially not at 40!!

I wasn't talking about about the 25 year old I was talking about the poster who was 34 and slept with a 20 year old and another poster who said she fancied teenagers

Of course 40s is middle aged unless your planning on living to a100

well why wouldn't I? In fact 113.

20 year olds can also be very built. I think the bit that got me was unable to grow a beard. Men mature at varying rates, like women. I think the kind of young guys women go for are the ones who are 20 but look 35. Maybe I am wrong.

Are you okay, hun? A 25 year old isn't a teenage boy. I was married, had my own mortgage and got pregnant at 25.

Calm down. Or you're going end up as one of those insufferable mums who baby their sons so much they never quite manage to grow into men.

Oh that's a pity op.

I suppose there's always the chance it will be, wherever age they are.

yes