Should I shag the 25 year old

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NC for obvious reasons.

Long story short, I'm 6 months out of an abusive marriage. Not in any way ready to date or for a relationship, I'm still far too hurt to even contemplate that. But I do miss sex.

Last week, a guy randomly approached me and gave me his number. We've chatted a bit, it turns out he's 10 years younger than me. From his messages, I get the impression he's only after one thing.

I'm really, really tempted. I could really do with a good shag. But I'm also worried it could go horribly wrong and leave me feeling terrible. So, please help me decide. WIBU to shag the 25 year old?!

This. ^

Also - I am struggling to understand why some posters are desperately waiting on tenterhooks, to find out if someone on the internet that they don't know, updates them to let them know she has shagged a 25 year old stranger.

Takes all sorts to make the world go around I suppose.

People might deny it but the same people calling it creepy would probably not bat an eyelid at a 35 year old man having a relationship with a 25 year old woman.
Men are valued more.

I was replying to this particular comment, not the OP.

“If you're sure you can remain emotionally uninvolved. If a 25 year old was interested in me, I'd tie him to the bed & ride him like a racehorse. Best of luck.”

I'm starting to think mumsnet is full of teenagers. I'm not interested in my friends sex lives so why people care about a strangers sex life is bizzare. And why so many people on here who are supposedly middle age women are attracted to men barely past their teenage years i cant fathom. I wonder what does it for them the spotty skin, the braces, the inability to grow facial hair the weedy arms. The fact they still live with mummy and daddy. It's so odd to me and just creepy and certain people on here need their Internet history checking

What do you know about him?

I wonder what does it for them the spotty skin, the braces, the inability to grow facial hair the weedy arms. The fact they still live with mummy and daddy. It's so odd to me and just creepy and certain people on here need their Internet history checking

What a really unpleasant insinuation. The only creepy thing is the level of thought and detail you've put into this.
In addition it's utter nonsense when talking about adults of 25. I mean literal fantasy. Bizarre.

Iv repeatedly said 25 is borderline it's the posters on here saying at 34 she was shagging a 20 year old another poster who said she fancied her friends teenage sons and then multiple agreeing with them. These are boys barely out of school. Do you have children of this age or work with late teenagers/ early 20s do you not see how young these people are

DH and I graduated with degrees, got married, had all 3 kids and bought a house in our twenties. We also voted multiple times, travelled, went to clubs, the gym, worked and paid taxes. Went to a few friends' parents funerals in there to boot. DH sported a full beard throughout.

What about adults in their twenties makes you think "teenager"? (and young teens at that - my 14yo fits that description!)

Like I said repeatedly 25 isn't bad it's the 34 year old shagging a 20 year old and the poster fancying her friends teenage sons. Like I also said I was groomed by an older man as a teenager and ended up pregnant with his child. So anytime I hear middle aged adults being attracted to teenagers it grosses me out and I can't believe how many on here think like this. I'm not talking about op 25 isn't to bad

Ah I see. Makes sense.

I figure once people are adults and self sufficient age is just a number, as long as both are consenting and power dynamics are roughly equal. Most of my crowd fit that definition by 22. There's a 10 year age gap between SIL and her DH. No one batted an eye when they got married, her in early twenties. Still together and happy 20 years on with kids.

The poster fancying her friends teenage sons.

You raised it and really shouldn’t have asked the question if you didn’t want a truthful answer. And you have a very unrealistic view of what some late teenage boys look like. As I pointed out when you first raised the question, there’s a world of difference between looking appreciatively and acting on it.

I work in a job where alcohol is sold and it's challenge 25 as obviously by 25 most people look like adults but before 25 its a bit questionable everyday I'm I'd ING people and the late teen early 20s really do look like children to me. Everyday we read posts on here from mums about their young adult children that really highlights how young they really are which is understandable as kids are now in education to a minimum of 18. Kids lost a couple of years of normal development due to covid and lockdowns. It's hard to see these young people everyday at work and read stories from mums on here. And then be able to understand why a 34 year old was shagging a 20 year old. And why another poster admitted to fancying her friends teenage sons. It's all well and good saying when kids reach a certain age it's OK. The age of consent in this country is 16. So absolutely by law a 45 year old could shag a 16 year old. But luckily most people's brains don't work like that and they see the young people In workplaces in the community and want to guide them and protect them not shag them why all their other 40 odd year old friends say go for it ride him/her like a bull then come back and tell us all the details

My gross is what? 😂

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But luckily most people's brains don't work like that and they see the young people In workplaces in the community and want to guide them and protect them not shag them why all their other 40 odd year old friends say go for it ride him/her like a bull then come back and tell us all the details

A depressingly large percentage of 40+ men would shag a 16/17 year old if she was willing.

Not sure about anyone else, but I’m not in the slightest bit inclined to guide or protect random young people…

The age wouldn't be an issue for me but he sounds very pushy, I wouldn't do it.

Clearly women to if you read this thread

Clearly women to if you read this thread

No, women here have been talking about sex with men in their twenties, ie adults. Which is a non-issue.

Literally the poster just above is talking about fancying her friends teenage sons and someone below is backing her

Literally the poster just above is talking about fancying her friends teenage sons and someone below is backing her

I took that more as seeing a friend's son and thinking "goodness, he's become a handsome young man". Not acting on it or flirting with him or anything, which would obviously be inappropriate.

you really are obsessed aren't you? You need to let it go.

you're not the only one here who was groomed.. i was barely 20 when i started seeing my then 34yo boyfriend, so i understand your level of Ick more than most.. and again why at 38 i turned down the advances of a 25yo.

However, you're focusing too much on the peanut gallery of responses from OTHER posters, not what the rest of us are talking about which is the OP and the young man in question, who's ages are 35 and 25.

It might do you well to leave the thread, rather than continue to sow discord and continue reliving your trauma and being upset.

She can find a late teen attractive without wanting to have sex with them.

Why on earth has my post saying fancying teenagers as a middle aged woman gross being deleted. Do you all including mumsnet think this is acceptable. I'm not talking about the 25 year old I'm talking about the poster saying she fancied her friends teenage sons. What is wrong with you all