or just naive to think that women wouldn't stoop so low as to offer their dh a blow job in exchange for a new pair of shoes.

[CountessDracula]

Cod claims they do

I can't believe it

That would be akin to being a prozzer

in this house we have sex because we actually want to

I know, I know, it is so odd, we are on a waiting list for Relate

yet you offer your dh blowjobs to do household chores

or was that a joke?

that song always make me think fondly of Zenia

so do i, but i think, if both parties are happy with this exchange, and the shoes/dress whatever isn't a necessity, then it's absolutely fine
CD, could you not combine the wrist action and relieve the toilet and your DH at the same time?

I don't much care for shoes.

How many bjs for a new house d'ya think? Is there an exchange rate?

well acutally it is always me who unblocks it

So I would have both hands free

miniminoumou- that sounds more like a mildly kinky domination game.

In all seriousness, either an exoenditure is reasonable and within the family budget, and all parties truted to make own judgement, OR someone wants something expensive which can't really be accommodated within mutual budget, in whch case they discuss it sensibly between them.
OR, if someone gives the other a nice surprise present, pleasure, excitement and graititude does make the ingredients of the odd nice shared moment...

But genuine bargaining with one partner who is viewed as having the power over the purse....not nice, whether it be sex or any other demanded facility.

I actually knew someone once who got jewellery for sexual favours. She had a fantastic diamond eternity ring on and when I asked what is was for (i.e. birthday pressie etc), she told me it was because she let her dh take her anal virginity

A ring for a ring and all that

O....M...G
That is the most revolting, cheap and nasty thing I ahve ever heard

And to tell other people

pmsl @ a ring for a ring though

Jewellery! I am so underselling myself....

She was vile .. and was the spitting image of Anthea Turner (as an aside )

If you aren't getting a good pair of shoes in exchange for each blow job you give, your technique needs urgent attention.

I'd love to have seen the exchange between you and your friend, tilly. Did you smile when she told you and say "really, how lovely"

This thread is hilarious!!

yes how did it come up in conversation?

slag "ooh look at my new ring"
tsm "very nice"
slag "yes I let Dwayne shag me up the arse in exchange"

a ring for a ring... damn I knew there was a reason I shouldn't enjoy sex.. now I have no bartering tool and am indeed destined to a spinsterhood

I bet you anything she wasn't an "anal virgin" too

Come on this was said in a manner than has no remote link to prostitution or demeaning of women's right to blow or not to blow!!

lolol I am trying to eat my lunch here ewwww

I don't know what's worse - the fact that this is what happens in their relationship or her willingness to tell you!

I wonder what other jewellery she has. Pearl necklace?

Mumsnet always manages to surprise me...

a ring for a ring

sounds fair

I was totally gobsmacked (no pun intended). It was at a friend's wedding and I'd only met her once or twice before. Her dh was sitting there nodding salaciously. Freaks

Good point, countess. She's probably got a whole stack of those eternity rings.

lol at pearl necklace.

No, surely they don't?
I earn money for my own shoes thanks very much