Should he have paid?

[SpookySN]

My boyfriend and I went away for my birthday last weekend. We've only been together for 5 months.

He planned the weekend and requested that I paid half for the two hotels only and said he would pay for everything else. I thought that was generous. I paid half for the hotels.

When we got there, he bought me a pastry for breakfast and then our main meal at an Italian restaurant. It was lovely. He then told me he wasn't paying for anything else because he couldn't afford to. I thought fair enough and proceeded to pay for everything I wanted from then onwards over the two days.

My issue was then seeing how he proceeded to spent his money afterwards. It was a little perplexing. He asked if we could go to a casino and then gambled there. The next day, he gambled on different machines in the arcades or in pubs we went to.

This weekend, when going out with friends, he's gambled again but will be reluctant to go out and do something because he can't afford it.

Perhaps I am being unreasonable to observe this! It's his money after all. I just don't know whether I should be feeling a little pissed off that he prioritises gambling over sticking to his word and paying for things last weekend. Let me know your thoughts.

This one's not a keeper

He's showing you his desire to gamble outweighs his regard for you. Ignore this red flag at your peril.

Yanbu. Ditch him.

Is this the same one who shows your saucy photos to his friends?

Run away fast.

be thankful you've discovered this out about him fairly early on in the "relationship" and move on?

Possibly addicted to gambling. Certainly prefers to gamble than spend his money on you, or doing other things with you. Chuck him back in the pool and move on.

If you stay with him, you’ll very much regret not getting out sooner. He will make you miserable.

flint This one back!

dump!

Fling this one back!

Dump and move on. He's showing you who he is.

If you don't leave one day you'll realise the house is about to be repossessed and you'll be homeless....

Run, quickly, and don’t look back. He’s showed you where his priorities are and it will only get worse the longer you stay. Sending a hug.

Fantastic and very considerate of him to wave this red flag so early on in the relationship, chuck him back and try again. Addictive personalities are not something you want to get involved with.

Haven’t you posted about him already and that he shared intimate pictures of you with friends?
He really is a piece of shit tbh.
Move on.

Definitely not a keeper. Thank goodness you found out early on. Don’t waste any more of your precious time on him.

Be thankful you have discovered so much about him now. He has a problem that will become your problem if you stay with him long term. Life is too short, move on.

Yup, but I think it's okay to post about a different issue, isn't it? Particularly as I am currently confused about whether I am nitpicking or not. I just need some reassurance before I speak to him tonight.

First post nails it.

Have seen your other thread too. You deserve so much better.

It’s fine to post, the point is that he has already done this really rather shitty thing and now he’s done something else which is red flag territory. Add it up and he is not a catch, he doesn’t respect you.

You're really not nitpicking. Bin him off. Sharpish.

He's a gambling addict who takes pornographic photos of you and shows them to anyone and everyone, including randoms in the pub.
I think making you pay for your own birthday treat is the least of your worries.
Have you no self respect OP?

Several different posts about the same guy on the same day....if you have that may issues with him it's time to get rid and quite frankly any of the issues on there own would be perfectly reasonable - not that you need any excuse to end a relationship

You are an adult with a teenager, you are modelling what relationships should be like - don't bring this twit into your DCs lives.

He’s shown intimate photos of you to friends and is tight fisted with a probable gambling habit so unless you are mad dump him fast .

He told you he would pay for you and then spent that money gambling all weekend instead. That is not acceptable. He would be an ex for me, I don't like men that gamble.